Kathy, Yes I think It is a good idea. I personally have not been verbally abused by anyone here. Although I am wondering how someone could keep up with all the forums, That would be a tough job. It also has to be someone very impartial, that likes everyone. As to not have conflicts there too. Is it even possible ?

Hello everyone, Thank you for joining us, Thank you for sharing how you feel,You all have great points here.Yes, it would be very hard to have someone moderate forums, what we need is just someone to over see them for extreme cases,If you block someone they can still get in your forums through find a person,better yet, when they find out you blocked them, then it gives them amunition to post thier own forum saying bad things against you,Ive been the target of that.so that does not work. Your right, freedom of our speech, yes, but how far do we let it go?public humiliation? we have seen that.Things that are said that are so milicious? weve seen that!!We just want people to be aware of thier actions, there is no justification for people to hurt eachother over a topic!!!we are Adults for Goodness sake, What are those people thinking of, that they can or have the right to discredit someone???Has people gotten so lost in thier souls that they have forgotten the love of christ??come on,words hurt,It does not matter how you mean it to sound,everyone takes things differently.Please when you are invited to a forum,if you think it will turn heated, please do not attend the forum,Choose your words carefully, think how it will affect your nieghbor when replying.I am very passionate about this topic because one of our so called prominate community persons threatened me today, because I asked him very sweetly privately first to not use a certain phrase when responding because I thought he was my friend, but instead, he told me to never tell him what to do, and if I do not becareful he will come down on me so hard it will make my head spin.I replied to him,You might be older than me but in no way am I afraid of you.I will not allow anyone to bend my wings.So I do have a problem with people treating people badly.It saddens my heart so badley that people can hurt one another for what ever reason they want.Please we must help educate each other on a loveing conduct so no one gets hurt.Thanks for listening to me. I just love you all so much that it hurts to see my friends or myself being hurt.Kathy martin

Hi Kathy, You must like fishing,, because this seems little big can of worms you got open here. Please correct me if my memory serves me wrong, but isn't it in the original membership agreement using profanity, porno, hate, verbal attacks, illegal something or another, etc., (not necessarily these words or in this order, but you should get my meaning) is prohibited and you could be banned? If not then maybe there should be. Could also be a small warning on the template frame on the write post page, right above the input box about respecting others rights, flaming, verbal attacks, etc. Also make it a rule that forum owners must check their forums at least once per day. I don't know about anyone else, and I don't see why it would be different, when I do a public / unmoderated forum and go back to view the forum I have a choice under every post, reply or delete. So there are no control changes need to be made. It's not a complicated problem. What happened to Hilda is heart sickening, but Kathy we are an open community simply speaking from mathematical point, the odds are we are going to get a couple of unsavory morons. It doesn't matter what system you have in place it is going to happen once in a while. Anyway whom ever the uncouth person is they should be banned from ALP if they cannot furnish an acceptable reason for their actions. Kathy, say there were moderators it is not like they could have stopped it from happening. Unless you are talking every post made has to be moderator approved? Which I think would be way overboard. For Hilda leaving ALP well that is her choice. Hilda received a lot of support from this community, she could have contact anyone on her friends list and we would have helped. If she goes down the street tomorrow and somebody tells her the same kind of thing, is she going to not go out any more? If Hilda is the strong woman I think she is, she will realize this and return. There will always be potholes in the road of life, the trick is to just learn to go around them. He who anger you, controls you while, He who conquers his anger, conquers his greatest enemies Today, I Will Be More Than I Was Yesterday, And even more than that Tomorrow!

My thoughts are this and I just read through the 3 pages of opinions, NO Moderaters period. A person can be removed from Adland if the situation warrants it. I did have a person removed for Scamming me in my personal mail a while back as this too is against the rules. I have no further comments on the subject.

Hi Kathy, Just wanted to say that if someone is threatening or abusive in any way that this person should be reported to the owners of adland. I think most of us would agree that there are probably times when a slight correction is all that is necessary & people will say 'oh I'm sorry I didn't realize how that sounded'; most people here I believe are great people & they are willing to listen to reason. If not, they shouldn't continue to have the privilege of joining community forums or benefit by the advertising. If the offending party doesn't listen then there should be repercussions, like being asked to leave the community. It seems to me that being banned from adland would be better than having to have moderators. Being banned would have to come from adland itself though. It's too bad that someone felt they could say whatever they said to Hilda...and then someone else (or maybe the same person) sent you a threatening email. That is just incredible. I'm all for you being on bully patrol...it's so unfortunate that people can't act like adults and be respectful. I am sorry for what has happened & hope that something will be done. Have a blessed evening, Cheryl