Hi Kathy,

John here,

 

You speak of unconditional love through friendship, and it is, after all as it states, no pre-disposed conditions to the perceived friendship. However the little gremlins of envy do lurk within a few petty minded amongst any group or community, and their target is always the successful, and the reason for this is that they cannot understand the fundamentals to being a success themselves, whether that is success in business or through relationships and friendships. The struggles for supremacy over others always interferes with there own individual perception of unconditional friendships, and they begin along that road of self-destruction by suddenly imposing conditions upon the friendships around them. People of this ilk are invariable loners, having no real friendships within their lives whether on the internet or not. Often they were the school bullies, as they move through life believing that they are in a position of power through bully tactics of the people around them. Many here at adlands have felt first hand these envy gremlins from the mindless few, who would sooner spend their time pulling others to pieces rather than building successful relationships or even a viable business, because they have neither the communication skills in the first place, or they simply love the acts of aggression towards others, as this gives them the attention they themselves seek. Often these types of people flock together in their bid to put others down, by simply ignoring them completely they have no power or hold over anyone, as they play their games to gain attention.

 

Learning to give is the basis of any friendship, ask not what your friends can do for you, ask instead what you can do for them, without any conditions attached. True friendships will be born from your heart, through trust and faith and by not telling others who they themselves should be friends with, as this puts conditions again into the friendship equation. Love your enemy’s as though they were your friends and you yourself will always be the better person.

 

Love and peace to all

 

John Elliott aka Oaky Wood & Luella May

Hi Kathy,

   My Grandfather once told me, "If at the time that you die, you can count your truly good friends on one hand, you have lived a full life."

   We form many friendships here in Adland, but most of the real frienships here in Adland are based on mutual respect.

    I have become very fond of many here, and I enjoy getting online everyday to read what my friends have to say and to reply to their posts.

     Perhaps I am naive, but it would never occur to me to try to hurt or backstab someone here in Adland. This community should be above that. The caliber of the people here certainly is. Most people here go out of their way to help each other and I find that wonderful.

     If someone is hurting you, Kathy, I say just ignore them. There are plenty of others here who love you.

Your Good Friend

Deborah

I think that people use the word friend incorrectly in most instances. In my opinion, when I see what goes for friendships fall apart, it seems to be because the parties start out assuming everyone is on the same page about everything. In a true friendship, bonds have been formed and grown over time with the parties experiencing the way they each handle life's twists and turns. If you are compatible enough to still enjoy one anothers company through both good and bad times, then you can call it a friendship.

Hello my friends, This is not about me at all,This is about people writing me with hurt feelings from other people being not very nice to one another.Like John Sanchez says it needs to stop. This once was a united front lets bring it back together. Please God look after everyone and give peace and comfort to all our souls and forgive us Lord Jesus for all our sins,in Jesus name Aman. Kathy Hamilton/simikathy.com

Hi Kathy,

Here Is A Real Friend Test  I received in an e-mail -

A simple friend, when visiting, acts like a guest.
A real friend opens your refrigerator and helps himself (and doesn't feel even the least bit weird shutting your 'beer/Pepsi drawer' with her foot!)