Hello Dave,
I happened by this forum via another members reference, so I am a little late getting here.
I found the topic and subsequenting comments diverse and interesting. I would like to point to another type of racism that I did not notice talked from anyone else.
Peer-pressure..Society...This is a very strong and not always good influence on our children growing up, and even through to adult hood, to act and behave a certain way, to dress, have the right kind of friends, vehicles etc etc. To be in the right Clique Group. I reckon most of us here have been the target of some kind of peer-pressure.
I grew up in a small town back in New Zealand and while I lived within the boundaries of Society (polite term for peer pressure with adults) I was accepted. However, I grew to become stronger within myself and to notice and not like this Society and started to stand up for my own beliefs and shun this Society. Hence by daring to challenge my family, friends and acquantances I have become an outcast in their eyes - I learned when I actually left the town to live in another city and talking and becoming friends with people whom were away from this Society/Peer pressure that what I was doing was perfectly OK. I was not breaking any laws of the land, moral or unethical rules. I learned to be ME and what what is important for ME. I learned that the value of good friends. Possessions was just STUFF that could be replaced, friends and people you care about cannot.
It took me a couple of years to come to terms with the hurt and devestation I felt and forgive. My family whom I am the youngest and I are on 'nodding' terms now. I broke out of the mould, I was not going to be told what to do anymore.
This discrimination is just as hurtful as any other. As a woman who has been hurt by others, I try never to judge anyone where they are, what they believe in. I think that each person needs to step away from their own beliefs and accept the other person where they are. Accept the person for who they are, and not so much as what their belief is. Try and find a nutrual ground - hobby etc to talk about that does not cause conflict. To delibrately provoke another to anger by introducing a topic to the conversation that you know is 'touchy' is not the act of friendship. Leave touchy subjects alone until you know that you know the person well enough to talk about them and then give the other a chance to give their opinion too. Yet overall, for good diplomatic actions, it is far better to stay away from these touchy subjects altogether.
We do not have any right to try and force our beliefs, ideas etc on each other. We are always going to meet people who have a diverse lifestyle from ourselves we do not have to take up their beliefs and make them our own - We have free choice.
Kind regards Amanda Martin-Shaver
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