Hi Trina,

I've known for a long time that people don't read more than they think they have to.  BUT when I tell people not to post ads in reply to other peoples ads, they come back and say "Why did you delete my ad?  I thought we were friends." 

My forum description has been up there for several months and people respond like I just put it there that moment as an affront to them personally.

Then there are the people who act like those of us with large friends lists somehow just snapped our fingers and had a huge pile of friends fall from the sky. 

I tell people if they put in a 30-minute daily effort to do something, if they plan what they are going to do online before they get online, they will accomplish something.  It may take awhile but it will happen.  People need to make things happen for themselves, not toss out a random spamathon and whine about other people having a bigger friends list when they do nothing to advance themselves.

Hi Kathleen,

  I've also learned the hard way, not to send an ad with an invite to be friends. Silly me, when I first came here, I thought that was the right thing to do. Oh! Lots of potential friends did not accept friendship because of it. Can't blame them, all those pm's and notifications of ads,ads,ads. I had no idea them. I do now!! Anyway, The POTW gets you lots and lots of friend requests. and ads to go with the majority of them. Instead of just refusing friendship, I kindly cautioned them about ads with friends requests. ALL but one was grateful. That person sent me a  pM  about my being cool, after all they said this is Adland - right. I sent an apology as to the intent of my message not to be taken as bad but a heads up. I have't heard from them since. This person has a lot to learnn about networking!!!

Thanks Kathleen!

Blessings

Valerie Clavin

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