Thank you Kathy, for bringing up this subject. I wear my purple ribbon every day, not just in October.
My first husband was an alcoholic and extremely abusive on the emotional front. I spent ten years with him, thinking that I was nothing. I maintain that he never hit me, because he knew he didn't have to.
Emotional abuse is harder to deal with, because there is no physical evidence for others to see. When someone is beating you, there are visible signs. An emotional abuser projects himself as the perfect guy to the rest of the world, so that if you go looking for help, others are not going to find your complaints easy to believe.
I felt I had to escape that situation for the sake of my then, two year-old son. This was back in 1992. I got out. However, I was still shell-shocked by the experience, and fell right into another abusive relationship with, "Prince Charming."
Prince Charming isolated me from my family, kept me financially dependent, verbally abused me, and when I would attempt to stand up for myself, the hitting would commence.
He was clever, never hitting me in front of my son. He would do his worst damage when my boy was visiting his father, on the weekends.
I had him arrested three times, and the final arrest resulted in me getting the help I desparately needed. I met a therapist who took me into her battered women's therapy group pro bono.
I spent 20 weeks with a group of 5 women, who were just like me. We met once a week, for two hours. This group saved my life.
I kicked him out and made him stay out for good.
I have now been in a healthy relationship, with my current husband, for the last 8 years. Life has never been better.
If you are being abused, you must seek help.
The woman who saved me is named Jennifer Parker, and she has her practice in Madison, WI.
Everyone deserves to be loved and respected, not battered and abused.
Trii
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