Dear Kathleen,
Now I read all what you wrote here. Must admit that I felt so upset finding that Branka spoke about being insulted by me.
I THINK YOU WROTE ABOUT THE SAME PROBLEM WHICH WE HAVE.
Branka`s biggest wound is so bad relationship with her parents. When you wrote your and your hubby`s parents went the same way as Branka`s ... I can figure out that people mostly were upbringing and educated their children with this weird and inhuman helper BELT.
Hm ....
And when you became parents (including my mother, of course) ... you healed this beaten and never in the right way cherished kid .... in the diapers and trousers of your children.
MAYBE WE BECAME WHAT PSYCHOLOGIST CALLS TOO PROTECTED KIDS?
In my country Serbia, the family is in a big crisis. Too many divorces, and children who REALLY insults and even beat their "TRYING TO BE PARENTS".
My tongue sometimes goes over my shoes ... but I know limit. I DO NOT INSULT MY MOTHER, but SHE, as EVERYONE ELSE IN THE WORLD, cann`t always be praised . AM I RIGHT?
I know that time goes too fast ... and that ........ too many worlds open in front of us each day. Simply, seems that parents still haven`t grow up ... and the kids are at the age to be considered as an adults.
A N D ... behind the back of each family .... are ELDERS ..... WHO ALWAYS KNOWS BETTER what should be done.
THAT MAKES ME CRAZY FROM TIREDNESS TO LISTEN ALWAYS THE SAME.
"YES, YOUR MOTHER SHLOUD, OR YOUR MOTHER COULD .... OR YOUR MOTHER DIDN`T ..."
When I scream out : LEAVE US AT PEACE!!!!! I am considered as an impolite and nasty.
My dear Kathleen and Jayson ... we all must be patient and tolerant.
My mother is now over 47. She wishes to give the birth to another child next year. Finally , her finances would permit her to dedicate more time to that kid. I was, at least, surprised when she told me that.
My eyes came bigger than my tongue uses to be, looking at her : Mooooooooooooooooooooooom ............
But when we spoke about that ... I COULD, I REALLY COULD , UNDERSTAND HER.
I was looking at the teenage in front of me. My little exhausted mother ... who`s life has been blown out by one unexpected wind.
Wished to encourage Jayson to speak more with you. Speak . Speak . That is so helpful. ALWAYS CAN BE FOUND RIGHT OR JUST HIDDEN PATH, IF WE TRUST EACH OTHER ENOUGH, AND IF WE SPEAK.
Love and appreciate you very much!
Luka