Hello Everyone! Thanks for your participation in this matter. My suggestion is that we have some trusted members be appointed as moderators and that their names be post where people can go to report any incidents of abuse. This way the matter is taken care of quickly. I also suggest that a guideline be put together for these moderators so they can determine what posts warrant deletion, but before the deletion the post would be copied and pasted into a letter to be review by the staff of Adlandpro to see if any further action should be taken. Sometimes just a warning to the persons involved will stop them from saying anything more. I have been to forums were volunteer members are used to moderate the forums and it seemed to work well. Thanks again for your opinions. JOHN

When we create forums, we are given the option to moderate or not to. This option can be changed at any time by the forum creator. Personally, I moderate my own forums, just so that I can have control over what is being posted. I don't want people to be abused, and I don't want the space to be abused either. So, I say it is a forum owner's choice to moderate. If you don't like how a person is behaving, change the rules, or ban them from participating. These forums, in my opinion, are a place for discussion, sharing and learning; not a place for the immature to hold a pissing contest. (Pardon my Engilsh.) If someone can't behave, then they can't play.

Hi Kathy, Feels sad that I've just come across this but it sure has my "juices" flowing. I could post my own thoughts about clowns who abuse others but before I do, please let me say this. I've known Bogdan for quite a long time. He is a very, very fair person. He is also a very, very family oriented person. He's known the down times and the up times. And, IMHO, should not be left out of this equation! A lot of good folks have made comments here. I haven't seen anyone suggest running it past Bogdan. I have seen those who've suggested to remove the abusive offender (and I agree), but it is Bogdan's decision. In my experience with him, he would probably contact that person and make them an "offer" they couldn't refuse and you might see a change. If a change didn't happen, Bogdan would MAKE a change, I'm sure. Bogdan is passionate about AdlandPro. I'd only imagine this, but he might personally contact Hilda and ask her to return. He is that kind of guy. Please don't leave him out of this. Maybe he's back from his fishing trip by now, I don't know, but it would be worth the try to contact him. Now, as for those who think their sh** don't stink - why don't you try bringing your threats on me or one of the other men here, instead of Kathy. You must be another one of those "heroes" who gets off proving what a MAN he is by threatening a woman - jerk! Must be a real tough guy... LMAO. Only a coward threatens a woman and does it behind a computer screen. Real tough... Mark

Hello Mark, Thank you for all you say and do.very glad you are here and very glad you are my friend, thank you,kathy martin

Dear Kathy and All, First of all, let me say my heart goes out to dear Hilda. No one grieving over such a tragic loss should have to put up with abuse here. While I understand she has been through a very emotional experience, I am saddened that she let one ignorant member take her away from all of the rest of her friends who truly do care and could offer comfort and support. I hope Dr. Bob is right and she comes back to us soon. I have to say, though, that I do NOT like the idea of moderators, for the reasons already expressed by many. We already have that option for our own forums. As for the bully, they exist, have always existed, and will continue to exist as long as we live in an imperfect world. Some people need to feel important and flaunt it. Those types of people get blocked from my friends list. I don't think the answer is necessarily to make a private fight public, either. I just came from this type of forum from another member, and I have to say I didn't appreciate being dragged into someone else's childish fight. We do have the means to send private messages to people, and I simply do not think it is right or ethical to broadcast those private messages to the general public. If I send a private email to someone, unless I have given my permission to them to use it on a forum, I don't expect to see it there. I think public bashing, unless in answer to a public comment, is unprofessional and serves only to bring you down to the offending party's level. I know I have made comments in some of these forums that have either been taken the wrong way or were downright brutal honesty. I am glad I was able to make amends, as I am only human and sometimes make mistakes. I would never intentionally hurt someone's feelings, and I hope those of you on my friends list and that have viewed those comments are starting to realize that. I also think there comes a time when you have to say what is right, even if it may not be popular opinion. I think that is what is great about this community--we all have an opinion, and we can voice it respectfully. Note that I said "respectfully", not "abusively". It is my personal opinion that moderators would put an end to that freedom. Sincerely,