Hello Rajaram,

Thank you for understanding me. I was pretty sure that you would!

I am sure you have noticed that I am not an active Christian anymore. I've read a lot of books about what other people believe about God and most about ancient Greeks and religion generally. Ancient Greek Philosophers had speak all about and those ideas were used by Apostle Paul to create the new religion. I know that in India, China and other parts of the world, there are similar ideas about humanity and God. The only thing I don't like at all is some fanatic people who force others to believe in what they believe or make wars for religion purposes. Of course I understand that religion is used as a propaganda in order people be fanaticized and make these wars having in their thoughts that their God would reward them.

I feel as a simple member in Earth's community. I do realize the differents between civilizations and I admire each one, ancient or modern and I want to be these differencies, these make our planet a wonderful place to live (sometimes not so wonderful for the purposes I refer above-at least one purpose)

Besides, I would like to add here that I do believe (or I want to believe) in reincarnation. I know that we choose the family in which we will be born and the kind of life we have to live in order to improve our souls each time we are born. I know that we have met in an other life some of the persons in our family, neighbour, school, work or elsewhere. Our souls are parts of the great soul and our mission is to be connected with it after we have all our lessons learnt. I don't want to go further, I am not a specialist, besides Bruce will post here some more parts of Bible!

Love and peace to you and all.

Dimitra

Hello Zvonimir,

Thank you for your kind words.

It's really very difficult to be an adopted child especially if you know your real parents and had a very good relationship with them. That was the reason I couldn't understand my step mother. I never said to her "my real mother would never say this.... " or something like that. But my step mother used to say to me :"You are a bad girl, your sisters are better than you, I did a mistake when I adopted you, I should have chosen another child or your younger sister....." . I don't want to say more, everyone can understand if she was the right person to have a child or not. She died 3 years ago and some days before her death she continued to say such words to me.

To write a book! When I was about 11 I tried to write one but I never finished it. I don't want to recycle all bad things that happened to me. I now have 3 children and I have good relationship with all my brothers and sisters (it was me who I tried very hard to keep this relationship alive).

Best regards,


Dimitra

Hi Dmitra

I never mentioned that it was easy either for adopting parents and especially for child.From your text I understand that you were the youngest girl.They have special treatment from parents at the same time they "buy" their father so that he cannot refuse them many things he refused to other children.I have 3 daughters.

From what you say about your step mother  to start with she was first of all unhappy with herself.Maybe her husband pushed her in adoption of a child.We often forget ourselves how we have been at particular age,but watching our kids we see some parts of our youth.Your stepmother never came in position to think about her youth since there was no anything that reminded her of.She could probably never think of that you were a very helpless creature who needed much care,warm words and somebody to lean on.Her childhood was probably terrible,frustrating with too many unnecessary hard words or actions.As you grew up she might have opened jelousity road and thought of that you are threat to her marriage.Let her rest in peace and try to forgive her all what she has said or done to you.

A child of 11 puts much more anger and irrationality in "writing a book" or any other explanation.Now at this age or perhaps some years later try to put on paper "how not to behave with stepchildren".Before you forgive her you will not be able to write anything since you will have sour taste in your mouth when you think about any deeper situation with her.

Now about religion.Going to church every Sunday does not make you a believer.As far as you understand that there is something above us human beings name it as you wish - GOD,Yahweh,Allah or any other name it is still the same.To my knowledge there is no religion in which name wars were not fought.

Zvonimir Rakigjija

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Hi Zvonimir,

Thank you for your kind words. I try to forgive her, I always did but she never let me completely free to do it. Now, I surely can but I think it's too late for me and her.

Meanwhile, I was the 6th child of 7. It was another sister after me who was adopted too. She has a similar story, she is married now but she is very unhappy in her marriage. She sometimes believes that it is so because she was separated from her origin family in a so young age and if she devorses she believes that she will have the same feelings again. Broken hearts from the childhood.

Best regards.

Dimitra

Hello friends,

Actually this will not break our initial theme. Discussing about conditions to make any community, we already have touched something called "community spirit", but didn`t tell much about it. Maybe this is waiting for enough my free time. I hope (but still doesn`t know how) I will find it.

Now I`d like to invite you to show our spirit-in-action for this Community - Adlandpro. Now is deadline to vote for POTW. Please, take a minute and cast your vote at

http://community.adlandpro.com/forums/thread/760572.aspx

Thank you in advance!

Branka