Hello Kathy, When we communicate with one another, we are transmitting information in two ways. One is the physical act of speaking, gesturing, writing, etc. The other is the transmission of thought. Every person on the planet without exception is vibrating thought into the Universe during their waking hours. This energy can be received by others and interpreted as emotion, just like a radio signal is interpreted as sound by a radio. To have healthy, joyous, and beneficial relationships with people, we need to do a few things: 1. Communicate our desires to those we have a relationship with often and in a sincere manner. 2. ALLOW the person we are communicating with to BE THEMSELVES and HAVE THEIR OWN PERCEPTIONS! We are all individual creators, and we all have unique perspective. You CAN NOT force those around you to believe as you do, you can only invite them to co-create with you. 3. When you feel negative emotion when dealing with others, realize that this feeling is your inner-self telling you that you are off your path and moving away from that which you want. 4. If you encounter someone who makes you feel this way, you can attempt to resolve the matter with more communication, or you can choose to say, "sorry we can't work this out" and never go back. You have the power to control how you feel by what you focus on! A great example: recently, I got two personal messages at Adland from two different people that both made me feel negative emotion. I responded to one, and he reacted even more vehemently. I sent him "I'm sorry that we can't work out our differences" and removed him from my Friends list. I took my focus away from him, and he has not entered my existence since. The response I sent to the second person brought an apology, and that person and I are now building a business relationship that will be incredibly strong. I invite everyone reading this to read my Stories From The Road forum for more great stories about how simply LISTENING and understanding the person's perspective on reality will build relationships. Make it a great day (literally),

Now Kathy has gone to bed (at last lol)Sleep well. I to would like to thank you all for your thought's. Personal Relationships are very complicated. We (Kathy and I)spent along time discussing this subject through individual and personal experiences and found it a most touching and difficult subject. Thank you all for your time. Stay safe Paul

Thank you for sharing :-)

Hi Kathy, Hi Paul, Thanks for this forum and info. As I have taught my kids, one of the keys to a successful relationship is in maintaining your own individuality. So many people get confused when in love in terms of understanding the saying, "If ever two were one, then surely we." What happens, they become so immeshed that when you take apart the one, you only have two halves. But When you maintain your individuality then you'll find two complete wholes making a Bigger whole! Think about it, you'll see what I mean. Today, I Will Be More Than I Was Yesterday, And even more than that Tomorrow!

Hello Kathy, Thanks for the invitation. "It's Hard to be Humble" Oh Lord it's hard to be humble When you're perfect in every way I can't wait to look in the mirror Cuz I get better looking each day. To know me is to love me I must be a hell of a man O Lord it's hard to be humble But I'm doing the best that I can... Excerpt from the song written by Mac Davis. I fear their is a very fine line between vanity and being humble. Many confuse them. My experiences with humble individuals has usually been as a result of a situation calling for the necessity of doing something NOW without regard for a materialistic reward later. Humble individuals are usually the first to accept responsibility and the last to be recognized for their efforts. Still, they remain steadfast in their abilities to address situations in a natural... straight-forward manner. We all know a humble individual(s) who we can rely on and can call on at anytime. They are true friends and quiet, discerning leaders. They are an abundent asset to any group situation and are a welcome member of any team. Do NOT confuse a humble person with a vain person. A humble person will never tell you how good they are. A vain person will always tell you. Over and Over and Over again. As far as relationships go...I believe most relationships have a giver and a taker. The problem with this is that the taker always wants more than the giver can give. Unless the taker is willing to give back to the relationship, the giver will be unable to keep up with the demands of the taker and the result is usually a collapse of a relationship. Relationships require a great deal of understanding, compassion, effort, compromise and respect. Unfortunately, most of us have experienced a bad relationship. If we think back... the picture is probably clearer now but the signs were always there. As it is in everything we do, anything worth having... is worth working for! All the best to everyone!