Hi Tanya, Thanks for dropping by. :-) It has been a real pleasure to read all the thoughtful responses. It's great to know that your friend has taken personal responsibility as a parent (UNcommon sense!) and has become a great parent in spite of the past. This is what we need far more of in our society. There is a post by Paul Davey in another thread that particularly fits here: http://community.adlandpro.com/forumShowPost.aspx?PostID=324352&pageindex=4 It is the inspiring story of a man who never let circumstances hold him back - well worth reading. God bless, Dave