Wow Kathleen, what a wonderful story. This has brought tears to my eyes, especially about the handshake. I've met a few people like that in my lifetime and the amazing part is they're always happy and always have a big smile for everyone.
I have a sister two years younger than me and she worked for an agency helping take care of these special people in a group home. There was one named Barbara that my sister got so attached to.
My sister had never worked an outside job before, because she and her husband owned a big farm and she helped with all the farm work, but after her daughter died at the age of 21 from lupus, she needed something to keep her occupied and get her out of the house so she went to work for this agency.
They cooked meals and helped with the housework and etc and took the patients on outings and out to eat and etc. Well Barbara was her first patient and she got really attached to her but then Barbara got breast cancer and only lived a few months after they found it. My sister was never happy with that job after that and she eventually quit.
My parents were still alive at that time and we were still having our family get togethers and family dinners and my sister would bring Barbara to these functions. Bless her heart it did not take much to make her happy. Her greatest joy was looking through catalogs, didn't matter what kind they were. I remember thinking what a gift to be able to find so much joy in something as simple as looking through a catalog. :)
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There ARE special people in this world. There's a man in my neighborhood named Dave, and he's about 60 years old now, he's been mowing lawns on this side of town all his life, I've lived around here for well over 20 years, and Dave is a recognizable part of this area. When he was younger, his mother made lawnmowing appointments for him, she found the jobs for him, and Dave would walk to those houses with his lawnmower and tools, and he had a lifetime of getting teased by kids too often, as unfortunately happens to lots of special people, but as he got older, the teasing stopped eventually, or maybe a lot of the kids grew up and the neighborhood just knew he belongs here, walking everywhere with his mower, some of his lawnmowing jobs were more than a mile from his mom's house.
What's most special about Dave? He remembers conversations from a long time ago if he hasn't seen someone for 6 months or a year, and is able to pick up the conversation right where it left off...and he's easy to talk to, and always has a smile and a wave for everyone, even if he doesn't know everyone's name everywhere, most people know him, and he recognizes everyone by sight, and always says "Hi, how ya doin?!" He has a firm grip, and doesn't let go for many minutes, it's not just a handshake, it's a hold, it's a hold that I've only felt from my grandma, as she got elderly, she'd hold our hand tightly just like Dave does, he's done that since he was a younger man, it's a handhold of someone who knows that they may not see the person again for a long time, or may not have a handshake from people very often, or may not know when their life will be over, or if people will go away.
What's special about Dave? His mom didn't put him in a special home for special people as she was advised to, she kept him at home because she wanted him to be raised with the Bible every day. Dave also walks more than a mile to church every Sunday, wearing a suit and tie.