What I see here is that people are different and they feel and respond differently, and what may be nothing at all to one may hurt and upset another. Words can hurt anyone sometimes, so that the real issue can often be feelings more than something like misunderstood rules.
No doubt that no one noticed that anything wrong was being done. It was pointed out, and while it may be nothing to some, there are people who take detail seriously...it's just the differences in people. It's actualy interesting to observe how we (and I say we because I am sometimes reactive too)...how we react upon our feelings vs. the point of the issue. For example, Kathleen has already endured other complaints and that has her already set up to feel either defensive or with anxiety if she hears any more.
So understanding can help us all to understand what causes people to respond as they do, and it isn't always as personal as we may take it.
There's only one answer here, and it is not to think of giving up the program and it's not that "any one" gives up or leaves. I don't want to see "any" one at all leave or quit or remain feeling hurt or offended.
What reward do we have if we win any argument, unless we come out of it with mutual kindness? It is possible and we "can" surrender our own hurt and make brotherly love a more important issue than being right or wrong or misunderstood or hurt.
There has been hurt here, and hurt does hurt, and it's not the rules that are the issue at this point...that issue has been brought to the table and there is awareness now....
The issue now is who can find the greatest power of love in their heart to come back in humility....whether I win or not....and try to cover up the hurts of the other?
Maybe this is a little test here...of faith, of love, of humility? God does allow these to occur, does he not?
I do love you all...and do understand "why" each one of you feels like you do....you all have reasons why...let's understand the other person's "why"....and then we may truly understand...and may find compassion in our heart for the other's "why."
You can do it! Because you are all good people with heart....and when we do do it...we often find that love turns our enemies into allies....this is what love does.
I have confidence in all of you.....love Kim