Questions of Chivalry
Roger Macdivitt 2009 ©
“Is chivalry really dead?”, I wondered
Are feminine weaknesses to be ignored?
Am I no longer expected to consider her different?
I enjoyed the smile that I gained when I held the door
I enjoyed the interaction
She might have been far too beautiful, unobtainable
But I could still offer a seat
Are those days gone, when I could lift a hat and say,
“Good Morning”?
Say it without being ignored, sharing a respect
What happened to that respect anyway?
Not for me that strident and drunken huntress
I like demure, I like vulnerable
Yes, she can do that dirty or heavy job
But why would she want to?
I can lift that weight, carry that bag
I can say, “after you”
I can lay my coat across puddles
I can offer my umbrella
Has nobody the time to sit a lady at at table?
No time to open the car door?
No time to help a damsel?
No time to be a gentleman?
Why are those female secrets so openly aired?
Why do we all need to know
Why is there no need for courtship?
No need for the coyness I loved?
If I offer a rose to a stranger
What reaction should I expect?
What role for the man who doesn’t understand
When his gestures go un-noticed, unwanted?
When children leave home for the very last time
A mother feels her days without purpose
When a man loses that feeling of protection
He feels days without purpose too
No, I want to ride up
On my charger and offer the earth
To plight my troth and seek her hand
And protect her from ogres and dragons
I know that we change with the times
That we need to be equal in spirit
But can we hold back that all swamping tide
For just a few years at least?
After all I have limited time
To make my intentions clear
Oh can we hold back till I see just one moresmile?
After all I am 63
Sir Roger