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Mine has been an incredible life filled with grief, extreme happiness, loss, illness, fun, disasters, physical pain, excitement, being unable to stay in any relationship, getting involved in and then out of the worst situations, totally alone! In the process, I became a minor UK celebrity, was part of the millionaire scene. Once met Prince Charles and Lady Di face to face (on their side of the red carpet.)

Experienced many supernatural encounters throughout my life. Against my wishes an exorcism was performed by my Doctor and two Pentecostal ministers. The story appeared on the front page of, ‘The News of the World’ newspaper. I also unwittingly became involved with the Soho Mafia when I was twenty-one years of age. Amazingly, I stayed optimistic and have survived my traumatic life to fulfil my dreams.

     Mainly I hope to point out that no one owes us anything. We should all make the most out of life and get through the difficult times, somehow. Even though we get taken in sometimes by rogues, or the system. Even the state of our health can get us down and make us want to give up. But, we have to jolly well get up and try again but, trying to be more careful the next time.

      There have been five husbands. {Amongst them, one witch and an S.A.S assassin.}

      My first husband Ken, was also my first boyfriend. At the age of eighteen, I did not know anything about boyfriends and at nineteen tied myself down way too early with marriage. But, I wanted to have my own home and children and did not have the patience to wait.

      The second was a vicious karate black-belt and alcoholic, Gavvy. Who became the father of my second child. He probably did me the most damage for he was the reason I lost my two small daughters. His true nature was hidden from me until the day we were married. I then unsuccessfully tried to leave him the day after, when on our honeymoon. Two days later he phoned to say he would cut my legs off when he arrived back at my home, which had now become the marital home.

      Next there was a powerful, astute businessman, Bob, who was also a witch and healer. Because of his beliefs, we had a 'handfasting,' which is a witches wedding as well as having the civil one. He was multi-talented (not in the musical sense) and could turn his hand to anything. This talent helped him amass over £1.5 million (Approx., $3.0 million) in properties, with some of my help. He seemed very charming and kind. During this marriage I suffered many illnesses...

     They included almost daily Migraines, and severe IBS. I also suffered dreadfully with symptoms similar to arsenic poisoning. I'm still trying to get these poisons out of my system, eleven years later, and still suffer the affects. My health became so bad I was unable to fully comprehend all his business dealings and the benefits at the time. I did not even know how many properties he had acquired.  I demanded he leave. Remarkably, within three months after separating from him, I became healthier.

      Then, the fourth time, I married a recovering alcoholic, self-confessed ‘assassin.’ ‘Paul Bruce,’ who wrote the worldwide best selling book, ‘The Nemesis File.’ An autobiography about his life and his assassinations whilst being in the British Army in one of their ‘S.A.S. Execution Squads.’ He had almost conquered the need to destroy himself, but his self-destruct button turned itself on again. The nature of an alcoholic can never be hidden for long...
         I found he was not able to hide his coldness once married to me. Much later and to my detriment, he caused me much hurt and also conned me out of a great deal of my remaining money. Luckily, I sensed all was not going to be well, and helped him keep his own home on, where he kept his rare collections. Only after marriage, did I realize the qualities I believed to be in him, were not there at all. In reality, he was a cold, uncommunicative, unaffectionate, uncaring, unsupportive and calculating brute.

~2005~

     The fifth. Now we come to my closest friend, who I finally found after years of searching. Because of him, I decided to turn my back on all I knew in the UK, and leave many of my material possessions behind. I gambled on a totally fresh new life, by leaving the UK. I came to live with Rocky, in Chicago (we have since moved to Nashville) also hoping to arrive without my illnesses, but sadly, they came here to live with me. Rocky is determined to help me gain my health back. It seems I may have a problem with a hormone imbalance, to do with my underactive thyroid. But correct medication should take care of that. And I believe in Holistic medicine and holistic healing, so I shall try everything to become as healthy as possible..
        Rocky has an MBA in Business Studies gained at the University of Chicago and is one gorgeous, young looking 47 year old, extremely strong, weightlifter. He was a Chief Financial Controller, in a billion dollar, top consulting  company, until I introduced him to the drums. We found he has a natural ability, and is very musically talented. Insomuch, as he has now become my drummer. He has also taken up acoustic and electric bass! Until we have a whole band together, we will make our own CD's with our recording studio and use the internet to market them. Rocky, is also the financial consultant in my company here, which he helped set up for me. After the life I've lived it is not easy for me to 'give' myself as I'm such a free spirit, but to have such a great, trusted friend and partner who is always there for me, is all that I need.

     Then there were also the six common-law-husbands.

      The first one, Nick, the son of a heart consultant (from Swindon) became the father of my first daughter, Donna. But, as I nearly lost her at birth, most of my time was spent with her. Soon Nick and I were no longer able to communicate, and many fights occurred between us.

      The second man, John Marney, was a kind person who I stayed with for two and a half years. He had been the best friend of a married man I unwittingly fell for, not knowing the truth that he lived with a wife and six children. Eventually, John and I argued over his not being able to look after my daughter and myself properly. He was a divorcee still paying for his previous family.

       Third, was Parky, (Tony Parke) who gambled heavily and drank all the ‘Guinness’s placed in front of him, whilst still being an incredible Pool player. He was unable to financially add anything to our security, and due to my having to pay many of his debts regularly, I often had to leave him. He loved me so much and followed me from one town to another, whenever I left him. Sixteen times I moved away, but each time he persuaded me to take him back. He eventually got murdered in an argument over me, when he finally quit gambling and was about to buy us a house with his saved up winnings, helped by someone on the inside of the horse racing business. It was a woman I knew casually, Pat, who worked at a famous Newbury horse riding stable, that killed him with a knifewound in the heart.

      Fourth, was David Roberts, a man who was both a ‘fur-dyer’ by trade and professional drummer. He encouraged me to be a musician in his band where I played and sang. We went on to form many different styles of bands, but after a year or two we had almost daily volatile arguments, I think mainly over his liking for football and television. Oh yes, and my friendships with other musicians in the bands. After I left him for the second time, he married my eighteen year old sister, Mandy. Sadly for me, on having her third and fourth children she told me that my kind of life was disruptive to her, as she had a home to run. This broke my heart as Mandy and I were always so close and her being fifteen years younger than me, was almost like my own daughter.

     Fifth, was Tony Kay, an extremely creative and talented multi-instrumentalist musician, singer and songwriter. Also, an artist and author. He was friendly with the band ‘Pink Floyd’ and played socially with them. His guitar style is the same as Dave Gilmour, their lead guitarist. Tony's mother, Mary, had been manager to the famous UK comedian Tommy Cooper for eighteen years, and it was her who was with him on the night he died on stage, in front of a huge audience and millions of television viewers. Tony is a wonderful spiritual person and is still a great friend of mine to this day.

     Sixth, was a lovely gentleman named Lambo, just eighteen months older than I. He was a millionaire architect, with a nine-bedroom mansion in Sunningdale, near Ascot, in the UK. This is where the Queen races her horses at one of the biggest equestrian events of the year. Lambo looked after me for five years, and did so much to promote my show business career. He had great faith in me and loved to show me off at top London clubs, like ‘The Sportsman’s Club,’ Park Lane. ‘Les Ambassadeurs’ club and ‘Morton’s’ which is part-owned by Michael Caine. I met many celebrities and other millionaires, some becoming our friends.

     There was a surprise meeting with Lady Di and Prince Charles, when they visited the Hammersmith Palais, London, after it’s renovation. Lambo had been working on the new design as an architect. (We found ourselves on their side of the barrier and were inches away from them as they had to walk past us!)

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     My tiny Pomeranian, Ching, came over with me from the UK in April 2004. After six months and at the age of fourteen years, she succumbed to kidney problems. But, still grief-stricken, three months on, I acquired two tiny Show Poms, ‘Seva’ and ‘Tiko,’ who will be 10 months old in Sept 05. I have since given Tiko to my friend Carol Ann, who is a doting mother and treats Tiko as I do Seva. I had to let one go, as together I could not take them everywhere with me. It is much easier to have Seva in her mesh handbag and my own handbag on my shoulder. It is also much better for giving one on one love, and that is what tiny dogs need.

      I hope Rocky will be with me for the rest of my life too, as we work so well together and the business is beginning to thrive. I now see a chance for good health and will soon have all I require from life. I see success and happiness at last, as I am about to be hugely launched as an author, singer, songwriter, & performer, this year. (Taking my baby Seva, with me, travelling in her bag and on our tour bus.) Also, publishing, marketing songs and books through my company, registered in June 2004, in the United States.

     All this, thanks to Rocky,  and his massive faith in me!