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Hello Branka,
It's usual to say "thank you for inviting me here". But this time it's for real. A BIG "THANK YOU" as this forum made me to read for about three hours all posts here.This topic is VERY INTERESTING and all posts of our friends impressive.
What is Community? A great team consisting by persons.
What's the goal of a community? To improve each member's life (or job, town, country....)
Who is responsible for the Community? Each individual member (in a family parents first)
On what is based a Community? On each members PERSONALITY!
We all here are AdlandPro Community.
I read all posts and saw so many different personalities. I don't want to distinguish some of them. Besides it would be unfair as I judge according to MY personality.
Who made me the personality I am now? Most here say it was my family. Which one? You see, I grow up in two different families.
So, I cannot continue my thoughts without introducing my life!!!
I was born in a small village in a family with seven children. My father was married for second time (to my mother) as his first wife died and he had already four children to care about. I was a happy child in this family. My father loved me very much and this love was shown to me in different ways. My mother was a patient common woman who loved all family's children equal (hers and not hers). Both my parents were good Christians and it was absolutely physical for me to be a good Christian too, as I saw my parents to be so good to all people who lived in the village. We, as a family, helped each other according to everyone's age and that was not only a need but everyone's will.
Unfortunately, when I was about 8, this family separated as the village slipped down and my parents and one of my sisters were killed. As I was not adult, I was adopted by another (unknown to me) family with no kids. Is there any need to say that for some years I wanted to believe that it is only a bad dream and I'll wake up and all would be the same as it was? But it was not a dream. It was a fact.
The fact is that, my second family seemed not to know how to grow up a child, especially a child who knew its parents and it's history. I don't say they were bad people, I say that they didn't have the knowledge and ability to handle the situation from the very beginning. I don't want to make you bored with details. Although I was a child who loved God, they forced me (and I mean this) to be every week in the church even if I couldn't. My step mother always told me about how God would punish me for everything I did and as years passed by I started to think that this God would not be my God. I noticed that the more my mother spoke about God, the more she was hard-hearted to me and my father was the same. I grew up to 18 and tried to find another way to find God. I started to read a lot of books in order to realize why should I be afraid of God and what in the h*ll did I wrong and I was suffering by a family of continuing DON'Ts. I'm not sure what I found, the only thing I'm sure is that God is one for all people and he has NO name. He is one for all people living on this planet or in any planet in the universe, just people like to name him according to their FEARS and by tradition.
Why do I say all these? Because we speak here about community. I am a member of a new community now, my family. What kind of a person would I be if I was trained by my original family and what a person finally I am? Would I be different? Would I made different choises in my life? Who knows! Here comes my personality! Being 8 years old when I lost my parents, I had already made a part of my personality, in my second family I added some more parts (I'm not sure if these are some of the best...) but definitely most of my personality completed when I was already married. A great part of my personality affected by my second family, school and reading. But I believe that no ones personality is ever completed as we all learn and change as we get older.
So, family is a community. Parents affect their children personality. School too. We have to refer school. It's the community beyond family.
What is the first thind that everyone has to do in a Community? RESPECT others! How? By respecting himself first. This is going to be when everyone knows thyself and loves thyself.
Oh, I somehow dried up. I may come again to post here.
Be happy!
Dimitra
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