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Everything that is worthwhile in life is scary. Choosing a school, choosing a career, getting married, having kids--all those things are scary. If it is not fearful, it is not worthwhile.
Quote By:Paul Tornier
If you don't believe love is possible for you, it will never happen. But if you do believe...
If you’ve been sitting around in the singles' department, watching the handsome guy at the pool, if you've been overwhelmed by a career that hasn't left time for intimacy, if all your friends are married and you feel like the only person in the world who hasn’t found, "the one," then you may believe that there won't ever be a true love for you.
If that's true, then you need to start believing that love does indeed await you. Just as nobody gets to Paris without believing that Paris exists, nobody falls in love without believing that a wonderful love is possible for them.
That's because conceptualization creates reality. In the story of almost every successful tycoon, we read that there was a belief that against all odds he or she would succeed some day. It's no different with you: what becomes manifest in your life arrives because consciously and unconsciously, you believe it can happen—whether it's a better job, a new car, or a true love.
The precondition of love's ever arriving is that you believe that somewhere out there is a real live person for you to love. If you believe it, it'll be true; if you don't, it will never happen. In fact, the person who could be the love of your life could step right up and look you in the eye, and you could say, "Excuse me, I've got an appointment," and head off in the opposite direction.
Believing that there's a true love for you may seem like a very small thing, but for a lot of people there's a great big hovering doubt that this wonderful thing called love could actually happen to them. Maybe you've already had twenty-four hour lousy relationships, maybe your fiancé died in a car crash, maybe you've always believed you aren't pretty enough, smart enough, or successful enough, or you're so shy that you can't even imagine having the kind of conversation that could get you into a relationship in the first place.
Remember Cinderella? She lay in rags on her pile of cinders and dusted up after her nasty stepmother and stepsisters. The furthest thing from her mind was that she, the raggedy cindersweeper, could ever fall in love.
Yet deep inside, Cinderella had faith, because when the Fairy Godmother showed up, she was open to the possibility that something good could happen to her; she didn't run away.
Instead, she put her faith in the Fairy Godmother, she accepted that the pumpkin turned into a coach, and she stepped into the little glass slippers with absolute confidence. She didn't say, "My goodness, how do you expect me to walk on these, they're going to splinter the minute I put my feet inside them?" No, she was open to love. Deep inside, she already said, "I believe in love; I believe that miracles can happen."
If you don't believe in Fairy Godmothers, you'll certainly never see one. And if you don't believe in love, it will never show up for you either. So take a risk, find the faith, open your heart, and believe that the love of your life awaits you.
By Daphne Rose Kingma
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You see, finding true love is like anything else that you want to succeed at...it takes POSITIVE THINKING! I know that sometimes we get burnt by someone that we used to be in a relationshipship with, but if you start thinking that all men, or all women, are bad because of it then how are you any different than someone that is prejudice against another race or religion?
There is no difference really! You can not take out on all men what one man did to you, and vice versa. Are there going to be others that may be a jerk as well? Probably, but what about that one special person that isn't?
No one likes to be hurt, and sometimes it is very hard to get past the pain, but like all things that happen that are unpleasant, you have to move on. People that we love die, but are we going to allow ourselves to die with them? We have to keep living, and forging ahead and in time the pain will heal. Will you go without someone in your life forever if your partner dies? I would hope not! So, when we go through a bad relationship we must live on as well.
You can find true love, success, or anything else you want in life if you just think positive and allow it to happen. Believe, and have faith, that all things are possible if you only believe hard enough, and don't give up hope!
Marilyn L. Ali
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