Hi Juliana
It has been a while since you posted here. While I am happy to see you back I am saddened that you seem to have taken another turn for the worst. There seems to be a repetitive cycle that you go through and every time yor life seems to be geting better, something happens and you turn it all around. I may have an explaination for your repetitive behaviour that you have never heard of before.
This analogy comes from a Psycologist that I studied under while in treatment. He taught me his concept and then asked me to share this with others who were going through the same kind of life patterns. He calls it " The Dual Reality ". It is something that I lived with most of my life and it caused me to have many of the same feelings that you have been experiencing.
The dual reality consists of two very distinct parts of human consciousness. 1, the reality consciousness that is your daily life. The real things that are going on in your world every day. 2, the distorted subconscious reality that controlls how you react to your conscious world. My subconscious mindset told me that I was a bad person and that I didn't deserve anything good in my life. This resulted from being raised in a shame based enviroment where I was made to feel ashamed of mistakes I made and therefore, ashamed of myself. There was also an abandonment issue for me from having been sent away from my family because I was a bad boy.
Then, there was my real world. I was smart, athletically gifted, charming and witty. All things that would help me succeed in life. The problem was though that everytime something good happened in my life I would destroy it because of my subconscious mindset that told me I deserved nothing good. throughout my life I would find myself in positions of success and happiness because of my abilities. I would then go into a self destruct mode because for some reason, I just knew that my happiness could not last. It had to be a trick of some kind because I didn't deserve good things.
This kept me in a constant stae of imbalance. To regain my balance I had to change my world. Since I was not aware of my negative subconscious mindset I could only change my real world to match my mindset. Once I had destroyed everything that I had worked so hard to achieve, I would be balanced again. My real world matched my mindset. My wonderful friend and mentor, Dr. Summers, taught me to understand and change my nuerotic mindset to match my real world rather than doing it the other way around.
I think it is possible that you too have a controlling , negative mindset that prevents you from experiencing the good things in your life in a positve way. Do you find yourself feeling a bit suspicious when something good happens to you? Is it difficult for you to accept compliments without wondering what the " real reason " is for someone to give you a compliment ? Do you recognize the pattern in your life that keeps you from ever really experiencng true happiness? If so, you may be living in a dual reality and you too can change your life just as I have. It takes knowledge and understanding. For me, it also took a lot of hard work. No matter what Juliana, the one thing you have to remember is that your life can be better. You do have the power to change your world and you do have the God given right to be happy.
You know you have friends here that truly care about you so don't be shy. We can all work together and make things better for all of us. LOL
May a smile follow you to sleep each night,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
and be there waiting,,, when you awaken.
Sincerly, Bill Vanderbilt
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