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RE: Mary Evelyn's Koffee Klatch
6/7/2013 10:14:41 PM

The 5 Love Languages®


Words Of Affirmation

My husband and I have the exact same love language. Why do we feel disconnected?

Many times, if a couple happens to have the same love languages, they have different dialects within those languages. So, you still think that what makes you feel loved makes them feel loved. The best way to handle that is to say to them, “Okay, so Words of Affirmation is your love langauge. It’s my love language too. What are the kinds of words that you like to hear from me? And where do you like to hear them? In private or in public?” So, find out something about the nuances of speaking their love langauge. That’s the key: learning to speak their language and their dialect of that language.

Acts Of Service

How can I communicate my love language of acts of service to my husband when he is overseas for long periods of time?

Here’s what I suggest, if your husband’s love language is acts of service and he is overseas and, consequently you can’t do acts of service for him physically, then in your emails or phone calls to him you say, “I just want to let you know, I’ve been loving you today. I took the garbage out, mowed the grass, mopped the floor…” Tell him the things you do for him that he appreciates, that when you do those things you’re thinking about him and about how much you love him. He’ll get it and emotionally he will feel your love.

Receiving Gifts

My daughter is dating a guy whose love language is Receiving Gifts. However, she is on a very tight budget. How would she show this?

Don’t assume that because a person’s love language is Receiving Gifts that you have to give expensive gifts. That’s not true. If gifts is a person’s love language, then little gifts will mean just as much as large and expensive gifts. They know if you’re on a budget and if you don’t have a lot of extra funds around. So simply buying a piece of candy or something else small, it says to them, “they were thinking about me, they got this for me.”

So it doesn’t have to be an expensive gift, it’s the thought that counts. But don’t ignore the reality that their love language is “Receiving Gifts.” Give them gifts but stay within your budget.

Quality Time

My wife and I are both active duty Marines, and we spend a lot off time away from each other. How do we start talking when we know one of us will be leaving soon?

I think one of the ways you prepare yourself for the separation is to talk with each other about some of the things that you really enjoyed during the time you were together. And then to ask the other person: What are some things I can do while you’re away that would be helpful to you to have done while I’m gone?

I think another factor is to say to them, “how can we stay in touch while we’re away?” And the good news is, for example, the love languages can be spoken long distance by emails or phone calls or letters. But talking about that before you go can set the stage for your actually speaking love long distance.

Physical Touch

My husband got a zero for physical touch on your online quiz and I got a zero. How do I deal with it?

He must learn how to reach out and give you the kind of touches that communicate love to you—just as you must learn to speak his love language. It usually doesn’t come natural to speak a language that is not native to us, so it will be just as difficult for him as it is for you. But if you both understand how important this is—that this is what is going to make the other person feel loved—it makes learning to speak each other’s primary love language much easier. I deal with thoroughly in my book The 5 Love Languages, so if you’ve not yet read it and only taken the quiz, I want to encourage you do so. I would also recommend you get your husband the men’s edition because in it I give guys several additional ideas on how to speak all five languages.

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RE: Mary Evelyn's Koffee Klatch
6/9/2013 8:57:04 AM
Twins dance Gangan style :))

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hbvjYLcct9M


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RE: Mary Evelyn's Koffee Klatch
6/9/2013 3:25:37 PM
Cute aren't they! Bob
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RE: Mary Evelyn's Koffee Klatch
6/11/2013 1:33:10 PM

How adorable. :)

Quote:
Twins dance Gangan style :))

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RE: Mary Evelyn's Koffee Klatch
6/11/2013 1:34:11 PM
By The Daily Meal | Healthy Living
For many a daily coffee is their boost to get through the day, but that medium drip just might save your life.

People may preach about the dangers of caffeine, but a new study by the New England Journal of Medicine found that drinking coffee could have health benefits.

The study, which began in 1995, took a sampling of 400,000 volunteers ages 50-71 that had no major diseases at the start of the study. By 2008, 50,000 of the participants had passed away. However, research found that those men who reported drinking two or three cups of coffee per day were 10 percent less likely to have died than those who didn't drink coffee and women drinking the same amount were 13 percent less likely to have passed away, according to The New York Times.

Besides possibly living longer, caffeine may be able to help prevent Alzheimer's. A 2012 study by the University of South Florida tested the caffeine levels of people who had begun to show the beginning signs of Alzheimer's. The researchers then re-tested the same people two to four years later. Participants with little or no caffeine in their blood streams were far more likely to have progressed to have developed Alzheimer's than those whose blood work had shown that they'd consumed about three cups' worth of caffeine.
These new results are no surprise, as other recent studies have also shown that caffeine can reduce the effects or prevent Type 2 diabetes, basal cell carcinoma, prostate cancer, oral cancer and breast cancer. But Dr. Gregory G. Freund, a professor of pathology at the University of Illinois, told The New York Times it is too early to tell the true effect of coffee on health.
"We don't know whether [coffee] is sufficient to prevent or lessen the effects of dementia," he said. "But, [coffee] has been popular for a long, long time, and there's probably good reasons for that."
-Kristin Salaky, The Daily Meal
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