Hello Everyone,
my dear Meshuganeh and Terrorist friends :-)
These last days I wasn't quite myself but this great thread made me find myself. Due to some not quite wanted facts I had to go through this thread post by post again, as preparing a reply for another forum! Being so meshuganehly "labile" in my mind, you can imagine how many ideas crossed my lonlly neuron longging for a bit of serotonin and endorphin; each post here brought another one! As the good researcher I WAS - LOL - of course I started searching for REFERENCE MATERIALS... this is how I found the following one which finally I decided better to post here than else where - having much more sense! In case you had no idea -so far - why do you like this place so much, from now on for sure you'll do.
~ sorry for the copy-paste, that I don't practice too much, but this is great as it is and besides I'm not an expert with this just an amateur ~
The Benefits of Laughter
Why laughter may be the best way to
warm up a
relationship.
Out of all the elements
that contribute to the warm atmosphere of a good relationship, there is one
that seldom gets translated into advice or even therapy, yet is something that
everyone desires and most people would like more of: Laughter.
It's a safe bet that most
of the laughs married couples get come from TV laugh tracks, not from each
other. They don't emanate from the relationship. More important, they don't
feed it. And if the jokes that make the rounds by email are any gauge, often they
are at the expense of it.
But homegrown laughter may
be what ailing couples need most. Uniquely human, laughter is, first and
foremost, a social signal--it disappears when there is no audience, which may
be as small as one other person--and it binds people together. It synchronizes
the brains of speaker and listener so that they are emotionally attuned.
These are the conclusions
of Robert Provine, Ph.D., a neuroscientist who found that laughter is far too
fragile to dissect in the laboratory. Instead, he observed thousands of
incidents of laughter spontaneously occurring in everyday life, and wittily
reports the results in Laughter: A Scientific Investigation (Penguin Books,
2001).
Laughter establishes--or
restores--a positive emotional climate and a sense of connection between two
people, who literally take pleasure in the company of each other. For if
there's one thing Dr. Provine found it's that speakers laugh even more than
their listeners. Of course levity can defuse anger and anxiety, and in so doing
it can pave the path to intimacy.
Most of what makes people
laugh is not thigh-slapper stuff but conversational comments. "Laughter is
not primarily about humor," says Dr. Provine, "but about social
relationships."
Among some of his
surprising findings:
- The much vaunted health
benefits of laughter are probably coincidental, a consequence of it's much more
important primary goal: bringing people together. In fact, the health benefits
of laughter may result from the social support it stimulates.
- Laughter plays a big role
in mating. Men like women who laugh heartily in their presence.
- Both sexes laugh a lot,
but females laugh more--126 percent more than their male counterparts. Men are
more laugh-getters.
- The laughter of the
female is the critical index of a healthy relationship
Psyched
for Success, April 29, 2003
Last Reviewed 30 Aug 2004
Article ID: 2723
Hm, doesn't this make you smile, think and ...
who knows what else?!
Anyway, it seems we are getting dangerously closer and closer .... we could even shake the EARTH if we all start laughting at the same time, being in every corner of the world! :-)
In order to stop you for a small moment,
I HUG YOU TO PIECES :-)
...like the terrorist I am
Anamaria"The most wasted day of all is
that in which we have not laughed."
~ Sebastian Roch Nicolas Chamfort. ~