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Thank you for your kind private messages. I am finally back home in Madeira ... defrosting from the temperature in the UK.
Don't forget today's show at 3pm ....
On Thursday 6th December, Host
Coach Steve Toth and myself Co-Host Dr Venerina Conti, of the Mind, Body and
Soul show on the Real Coaching Radio Network, discussed the topic of self
sabotage.
What is self sabotage? How does it hold us back? How does it make us
our own worst enemy?
Self sabotage happens when we
impede ourselves from doing something that we would like to do, or ought to be
doing, by letting everything around us get in the way. For example, if we dream of becoming a great
painter, so we could establish ourselves in the Artists’ world and maybe have
our own exhibitions, painting something every day would help us to improve our
skills.
However, if we allowed everything
else to get in the way like: being too tired, not having enough time or
whatever excuse we choose to use, then we are acting in a way that sabotages
our hopes, wishes and dreams, which eventually we will give up on. We have nobody to blame but ourselves. Time does not just occur. Time needs to be created.
We have willingly diverted our
attention and focus away from what is important to us. We have made up excuses and found every
reason not to be doing what we would like to be doing. But are there underlying reasons for this
behaviour? Does self-sabotage go deeper
than we imagine? Where exactly is it
rooted?
Self-sabotage starts with
internal dialogues. Think about this. We
are the one person we talk to all day long, ever day, and we are the one and
only person we will know all our lives, so why then do we choose to talk to
ourselves in such a negative way? Why do
we convince ourselves that we are not good enough? Why do we talk ourselves into states of
insecurity and destroy our own self-confidence.
If your best friend came to you
and asked for your advice, you would show them support and offer them
encouragement. So why is it so hard to
be your own best friend? Are you not the
most important person in your life? If
you are not, then you should be because if you are not feeling well and are not
capable of taking good care of yourself, then how can you possibly make others
feel good or even look after them?
So, how do you talk to yourself
all day long? Think about what words you
choose to use in your internal dialogues?
How do you transmit your being to the world around you?
Rather than focusing on the
negative, think about all the good qualities you have. Feel grateful for all the good things you
have achieved. Doing a little is better
than doing nothing. If you doing
something then you can never fail. Be
realistic when you set yourself goals.
Take one step at a time and do not expect to conquer Rome in one day. Disappointment and self sabotage also come
from expecting too much of one’s self.
Keep a journal, (for your eyes
only), where you can write everything down.
Show gratitude for what you have.
Clearly express in writing what you would like to have and achieve.
Learn to appreciate
yourself. How? … Listen in to the
exercise Coach Steve Toth and Drª Venerina Conti did, live on air. It takes one minute to change how you feel
about yourself and who you will become in the future. Tune into the Mind, Body and Soul Show every
Thursday at 8am MST, 3pm GMT.