Kathy,
This is a frightening problem for family members and loved ones of someone who has BD. Most times those affected by this dreaded menace are so good at hiding it and loved ones are sucked into a false relationship.
Our family spent about 3 years(& more) trying to recover from our experience. My son lived with a woman whom he truly loved and so did I. Many of us found her to be of a lovable nature. She was very convincing and told of how she was abused by her step-father, her ex-husband, how she lost her children to him - none of which she was responsible for. They spent over 3 years together before she was exposed to his family. It was not long all of us began to see something was just not right. She went from size 6 to 16 in a short period of time. She read books constantly and when not reading, would be sleeping. When she had a job she would drive herself to do really good but something would happen and she would get fired. Never her fault, so she lead us to believe. She was very affectionate to me and our family but when things started to go wrong with their relationship, she turned on all of us. She wrote nasty emails to his brother and family and his Dad. Then, she turned on me and it was a really bad scene. She hated me most of all. I was so stunned and tried so hard to help her and wanted her to be the person I first met. She could not turn back and continued to get vulgar, tried to commit suicide which involved police and was committed to a hospital. They did not help her and turned her out within a few days. She continued to get worse and my son moved out. She then turned on him and it got so bad, he hired an attorney and got a restraining order. Before she left our little town, she had already caused a divorce of her supervisor at work, spent a couple of nights in jail, and left town owing rent money and large hospital bills. We have had no further contact with her but to this day, it is still so hard to believe that the person I first met and whom my son fell in love with could turn out to be so vicious. And we still wonder where she is and how many other lives she has disrupted since she left here. It took much heartache, tears, and time to get our lives back to normal.
I pray for anyone who has this disease and especially for their loved ones. Many times the ones they turn on are the ones that love them most. So sad. I also pray none of you ever have to go through what our family endured.
Sara
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