hello, happy to report that things are starting to work out for the better.  I think communication is definitely key and also thinking about the alternative as well as placing yourself in the other person's shoes for a moment once a change in lifestyle has been made which often times can be permanent.  I am glad to know that my gut feeling about a recent scenario told me to not jump in haste and call it quits, throwing in the towel.  I think sometimes people think the grass is going to be greener on the other side instead of honoring that committment they made years ago with their spouse. 

The other issue is think about what changes made (ie divorce) will do to others as opposed to just yourself.  Forgiveness is divine.  Hope people can remember or try to atleast think back to the time when they were in love.  Abusive relationships often show early signs that many times we blow off and ignore.  Dont ignore the signs.  That's like ignoring the facts.  And to ignore the facts doesnt change the facts.   Nip each uneasy notion or 'feeling' you get when it arises and dont dismiss it.  If things in your relationship dont feel or sound like you'd be saying them, you cant just blow it off.. for later on it's those little things that resurface and those same very things that you blew off in the face of 'love' are the very same things you end up hating.  Speak up .. we cannot change another person, we can only change ourselves.

Thanks for reading - and oh, by the way, can anybody go and visit my domain page again?  lol.. Adland keeps saying I'm inactive or something so some of my buddies and new friends can always just go to the website http://www.enterpriseladies.ws and look for the adland thingy on there. ..click it so these folks know I am alive and well?  lol thanks bunches. 

LEE SMITH