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Kathy Kanouse

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Re: VERBAL ABUSE: HOW TO SAVE YOURSELF
6/15/2007 11:25:45 AM
Oh my Lee I will pray for you. Yes you may be right but then on the other hand what if indeed he is not lieing about the rest of it. Yes I agree Marriage counseling is a start if that don't work then...
Ask God to provide you with those answers. He will show you the truth.
Also anger management classes are another good one to build up your tools.
I will pray for you
Take care...
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Re: VERBAL ABUSE: HOW TO SAVE YOURSELF
6/15/2007 11:35:58 AM
Oh my Joyce, I hear what you are saying. Be careful sweetie I don't want to send you a red flag BUt from my own experience I tried to the bitter end right to the court room to give it another chance. It was then he looked at me & looked to the Judge & said I want this Divorce. But God gave me the strength to stay in my marriage ( same home, same bed) all while going through a divorce for a whole year. I now can say that I lean own God for everything I need & I am living a much happier life just me & my 2 kids.. This wouldn't be possible if I were living in my own strenth.
I say all of this to say this: I tried to help him change. he changed for about 3 years then went right back to the same ol verbal, emotional, Physicial garbage. The change most of the time is only for a season not for ever.
Should you ever need to talk feel free to email me.
God will shield you with his Love & strength.
I am praying for you
Take care Joyce
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Re: VERBAL ABUSE: HOW TO SAVE YOURSELF
6/15/2007 12:39:00 PM

Hello Everybody

   As some of you know, I have been involved in the mental health field for a long time. Not just as someone who has had bouts with depression but also as an advocate, guest speaker and chairperson for some group therapy. One common thread that I have seen run through all cases where abuse is involved is " low self esteem". Verbal abuse is the tool with which one destroys anothers self esteem. The constant belittling, insulting and demeaning wears away at ones self esteem to the point where I have seen people feel totally worthless. This is the single most destructive element of any failed relationship that I have ever seen.

    If you are with someone who seems to makes you feel worthless or ashamed most of the time, you are with the wrong person. Love is not about correcting each other. It is more about acceptance. Understanding each other for what you really are and accepting each other unconditionally. It is really very simple. If you hit yourself on the hand with a hammer, it hurts. So, you don't hit yourself with hammers right? Well, just apply that same rule to other aspects of your life. Stay away from things that hurt you.

                      
 
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Re: VERBAL ABUSE: HOW TO SAVE YOURSELF
6/15/2007 12:48:17 PM
Lee,
no one can "expect" anything from you.
You are the only one who can calmly weigh you total situation.
Don't jump out of the frying pan without building your resources and putting yourself in the best possible position you can before making any rash moves.
As for your husband, his actions tell you who he is, not his words.
I had my own reasons for staying, oddly enough, when I had had enough-I simply said so.
I let everyone know they do not get to speak to me in anyway that I do not approve.
I'm a drama queen so I enjoy bending people into decent human beings now that I have discovered the formula.
The key for me is to not be dependent.
Make sure you are not at risk for being thrown out and that is why you take bull.
There may be other reasons, but only you can dig deep enough to find what that is-when you do you will change it.
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Re: VERBAL ABUSE: HOW TO SAVE YOURSELF
6/15/2007 7:11:27 PM

Hello my friends, well I have been at a Seminar all day and they are teaching people from all walks of life about Domestic Violence Under the uniform Act Law you can now name your abuser publicly as much as  you want.It is so others know about the abuser and that for you all as women or men to stay away from the abuser and your family so they can not abuse you.yes folks it is true it is set up by the Legislaters to protect women from ever being abused, So If your abuser has ever been in jail or on probation which mine has I can tell the world publicly exactly what his name is i am at this moment going to save that name for one of my other colums.

but yes Ladies do not think for one moment you can get in any trouble for stating the abusers name.It is not defamation of character or it is not slander,If they have a jail record and have been on probation then yes ladies and gentlemen by all means you are covered by the uniform act law of Domestic Violence.

They cant claim its a lie if they have a record!!!

So this gives us back some of our Power to let the abuser know that the world will hear that they are an abuser.

 

So hopefully this will deter the abuser to leave the victims alone.

 

I will be  updating you all as I get more new information..

Have an amazing day and feel good they we have our Power back.

Let me help you to Empower yourself against Domesticv Violence.

Whooohooo!!!!!

I am home if any one wants to chat.

Kathy Hamilton/simikathy.com

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