Are You The Ham or the Eggs?by Heather Long |
Are you the ham or the eggs? Seriously, are you the ham or the eggs? Yes, I am serious about the question. Thanks to Grey's Anatomy
last night, I have to applaud the writers for their efforts because now
we have a great new catchphrase and it's a great analogy for commitment
and involvement in a relationship. Sponsors (article continues below)
The Analogy The question is: are you
the ham or the eggs when it comes to your relationship. If you are the
chicken and provide the eggs, you are not giving yourself fully to the
relationship. You give the eggs, but you're still a chicken. If you are
the ham, then you can no longer be the pig. The pig is sacrificed to
become the ham and that means you are 100% committed to the
relationship. If you are the ham, you're there - you are devoted
to the relationship and you are not just playing at the relationship
game. If you are just the eggs, you aren't ready to be in the
relationship all the way and you are not devoting yourself. The Answer We
want to be the ham, we want our spouses and our significant others to
be the ham too. Because when they are the ham, we know they're there -
period, end of story. But if we're not ready to be the ham and we're
only willing to give the eggs to the relationship, then we need to be
honest about it too. Being the ham isn't easy, remember - when
you're the ham, you give up just being you. In every relationship, in
every marriage - we become a couple. We become more than just who we
are. When I was single, I was just I and I was just responsible for me
and how I felt. When I got married, I chose to stop being the pig and
to become the ham. I'm a wife and a mother and that's part of how I
define myself because that's who I am. So - are you the ham or the eggs?
Aaron and Kathy
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