ARE YOU STUCK IN A NEGATIVE-THINKING RUT?

There are many people that read all kinds of self-help books, and visit websites on Positive Thinking, in the hopes of learning what they need to learn to change the way that they think. They’ll buy every book imaginable, read everything on the Internet that they can find, but then they do nothing with the information that they have learned.

Why do some people do this, and what are they really trying to accomplish? Some people will actually read, come across the answer to their problems, and then continue on as if there was more that they needed to learn to solve things. This type of person refuses to accept what they have read, and also refuses to do anything about their problem. They want to sit back and complain though that nothing changes for them and never will.

A great analogy of this would be someone that decides they want to lose weight. They go out buy all kinds of exercise equipment, learn about all the health risks of exercising and how to start off slowly etc., and then does nothing with it after all their efforts to get what they need to exercise. They don’t really want to change things to begin with, and until they are ready to do so they will stay in their position until they get into a different mindset.

This is the same thing that happens with some people that have a negative mindset or low self-esteem. They can learn all they want to, seek out help from counselors or therapists, but until they have made a conscious decision that they want to change, and are going to change, they will remain in that rut indefinitely. There is no magic that can fix them, and that is what they are looking for because they do not want to take the actions to help themselves.

All they do is keep telling themselves that this won’t work, or that wont work because they are different than other people, and what works for others won’t work for them. We all know that is not true, it is just that they will not accept that they can change, and they will only change in their own time. It is not something that can be forced upon someone, they have to want it for themselves. It is kind of like an alcoholic or drug addict, until they admit they have a problem, and want to change for themselves, they will not change!

It is a sad thing really because these people refuse to accept the fact that they are responsible for their own thoughts and actions. That all their negative self-talk is what is causing their own problems and demise. As I said, until people like this are able to accept that this is their responsibility they will continue to be in a rut, and to be a victim.

GOD BLESS,

MARILYN