Hello Cheri,
I've tried to discuss Mom and Dad's memory problems with my sis. But she just seems to not be concerned with it. I realize that she is not around them as much as I am, so she really doesn't get a chance to see it happening first hand. She needs to get a grip on reality. Without my hubby, I'm not sure I could've made it this far.
Reading the other posts here, I realize that I am not alone, but at times, it sure seems like it :)
My folks live in a small town also, and Mom is fine there. Since she won't drive in the big city anymore, last year, I spent a good part of the year driving both my folks back and forth to the hospital. As I've already mentioned, Dad has had a lot of health problems, so after many tests and procedures, it turned out to be a long year. And, although this year has been a tad better then last, I grow more tired, mentally. It's really hard.
I don't believe that my folks will need financial assistance, except perhaps for actually writing checks for the bills. I suppose that in the near future, I will need to sit down with them and discuss things like: being added to their banks accounts for purposes of signing checks to pay bills, keys to their safety deposit boxes (I'm already on the signature card), and even power of attorney for handling their finances. Discussions on long term care, and burial preferences, and arrangements are another task that should be addressed. Sigh...
Thanks for listening,
Lisa :`)
PS If anyone would like to PM me and discuss care of their aging parents, please feel free to. I'd be happy to visit with you.
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