Hello My friends, Here is some great information. Kathy/simikathy Importance of Self-Esteem in Addressing Issues at Home Imagine if your child came home with a bad report card, then which of these 3 alternative reactions will elicit a better response from the child. A. Don't you know these grades are embarassing? Not one A or B grade? It is all C's and D's. We need to talk about what you need to do for the next report card so it is better than this one. B. Let's take a look at the grades you got and talk about what happened and then let's discuss what you need to do to bring home a better report card next time. C. I have no doubt that you can get all A's. Apparently something happened and you did not get any A's. Let's take a look at what you got, what caused it and what you need to do to get the A's you know you can. 'A' is a Negative reaction. 'B' is Positive reaction. 'C' is "Self-Esteem enhancing" reaction and will elicit the best response from the child. Self-Esteem is a Powerful Motivator. Achieving Wellness We believe that to successfully achieve Wellness there is only one way: The Holistic Way. The basis is simple. To achieve wellness we need 3 very important things: 1. A Reason to Live 2. A Reason to Live Well, and 3. A Reason to Live Long. If we have clarity (comes from our Internal Programming) about why we want to live, live well and live long, then therin lies our motivation for maintaining discipline in our diet, fitness, stress management, and everything else. For more information on "Holistic Approach to Wellness" click here. Edit TextDelete HTML Topics that Amir has spoken on include: * Making Ralationships Meaningful and Fun * 'Internal' Self-esteem and Teen Image * Motivation for Achieving Goals in Your Personal Life * Holistic Approach to Achieving Wellness * Managing Stress in Your Personal Life Relationships: With whom would you prefer to have a relationship? A person with low Self-esteem or a person with high Self-esteem? That is a rhetorical question and you know the answer. People like people with high Self-esteem. They make others feel good. They attract others like a magnet.They are not affected by negative comments and put-downs. That is because their Self-esteem is Internally-triggered and not externally-triggered. Learn more about 'Internal' Self-esteem. Click here. For more information on skills to make every communication into a Self-Esteem enhancing communication, read the book on Internal Motivation based on high Self-Esteem. Order from www.amazon.com or www.bn.com. Sale Price $ 4.95. Stress Management: To live life is to encounter challenges and challenging people. It is how we react to these challenges that creates stress and frustration. How we react is determined by our internal programming. We do not control the challenges or the challenging people or what they say or do. But we do control how we react. Over the years we have become socialized and conditioned to react in certain ways. Changing how we react requires De-programming (un-learning) and then Re-programming (new learning.)

Hello ,my girls get straight A's but there has been times in a certain class they had a lower grade but I say to them I know you work very hard and care about your grades so do not worry about the lower grade.As the years go on the classes get harder you might not always get an a in the class,but as long as we know how hard you work do not worry or be so hard on yourself.just try your best.My girls are very hard on there self when it comes to there grades,they love getting a's on there report card.But this is how we are programmed,its how we percieve things are or should be. Kathy/simikathy

Hi Kathy, Thanks for the invitation to your forum. I agree, self esteem is important to remember when talking with your children. Sometimes, children can work hard and still not get good results because there is a conflict with their teacher either personality clash or some other reason.. I remember a time when my son was around 9 years old and his self esteem went downhill - my exhusband and I noticed our son did not want to go to school and did not want to do his homework and sat in front of the Play Station and would not go to bed on time. His grades went downhill. He became angry not himself at all. My ex and I decided to go to his class teacher and we were astounded and knew why our son's character had taken a nose dive. When we entered the classroom, our son was sitting up the front of the class on the floor with the teacher standing over him and telling us in a sarcastic, brash way - that I could have personally hit him! "Daryl is not doing very good today"! My ex and I went and talked with the Principal and this teacher together expressing our concerns at this negative power display. The Principal immediately distracted us to another matter our son had done. Upon leaving this meeting my ex and talked and realised how we had been lead into this distraction - yet we came to the conclusion we had not lost the meeting as they now knew that we knew.. Things did improve and that teacher left the school the following year. I think he was just burned out. Kind regards Amanda Martin-Shaver

some very good points here.

Good morning Kathy with a k. Self Esteem There are many variables when it comes to this topic.I raised three kids and they are doing just fine,There where times when there where teacher conflicts as there are when we grow up. Only thing is the kids are stuck with the teachers.Some teachers like all people have diffrent views and personalitys and the kids may or may not like them?/ But alot of the tolerence issues araise at home??.When my kids where growning up we used a reward type system but the rewards wheren't enough to make the kids that didn't get a reward feel really bad.Having done it that way thier "self" didn't take a battering. They where taught rite from wrong.Now I see the grand kids jumping thro the hoops!! Not alot different?? Just more to learn faster. I had a couple nasty teachers and I made it ok.??!! Matter of opinion I know .lol :)Have agreat day every one and remember to keep your dreams out in front of you.Ron