Hey Kathy; I always read your posts. I just never reply as I use them more as a personal therapeutic session for myself. There is a saying that my Grandmother thought me when I was growing up. "Misery loves company". It is OK to be kind and giving, but do not become so attach to a situation. By putting some Teflon on, it does not make you less of a friend. Detaching yourself from the situation in most cases will afford you the strength to be more at ease with helping those who truly need your help. Remember, you must have the serenity to accept the things you cannot change. The courage to change the things you can and the Wisdom to know the difference. Have a Bless day.

Don't be sad Kathy We Appreciate all your hard work here at Adland. Remember: God said to "Love your enemies". You can't please everyone. Live "One Day At A Time" Keep pushing forward don't look back Hugs to you G/F

Hi Kathy, My mother recently told me something very important because she thinks she won't be around much longer...she told me that even though someone may be a good friend or relative, don't spend too much time with people who are constantly dwelling in their problems because those things will keep you awake at night, and we have to spend our thoughts on ourselves and our own family. That may sound a little selfish, but my mom's mother died shortly before my parents wedding, and my mom spent a lot of her time worrying about her 2 teenage brothers, so much that her doctor told her to not focus so much on other people, to focus on her new marriage and first baby. Anyway, mom's brothers turned out good, they both got good jobs and settled down. I think saying a genuine daily prayer for people and giving them advice is the best we can do. Don't let other peoples problems weigh down your own joys in life. Every moment is a decision, everything we say and the way we say it is a choice, and people can do their best to fix their own problems if they are motivated to figure out what's wrong and take positive actions.

Hello all my friends, Thank you so much for your caring support,It does just get to be a bit much,I feel like I am taking on the world at times because I want to be there for my friends and try to make it all better for them,but I just have so many people that seem to be in despair that it is a bit over whelming at times.I just do not know what to do about any of it, some say detatch, well thats very hard for me to do. I do would feel like I was letting someone drown or jump off a cliff If I just turned away,I need some help coming up with ideas to help people become happier in there lives and in thier selves.We as a community have so much talent here and you are all so special that there must be something we can come up with.Lets just keep on praying. Thanks everyone for your great advise I do really appreciate it,Thank you,kathy

Hello Kathy, (and all) It is difficult to impossible to take charge of anothers misery. Best wishes. Ron S.