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Hello Sol,
Thanks for your post. I know how difficult it can be sometimes when people are from different cultures, and even different backgrounds for that matter.
I was brought up in a very old-fashioned home. My mother waited on my father hand and foot, and she did the same for us kids. For example, we never were allowed to get a drink out of the refrigerator ourselves, my mother got it for us.
When my Dad would come home after work, dinner would be on the table, and then we would all sit down to eat. I am, or I was, the same way with my ex-husband. I am not a big woman's libber...I do believe if a woman wants to work construction she should be able to, and woman should get paid the same as a man for the same type of work. Other than that though, I am happy with my role as a woman. Everyone has there own way of being, and that's okay too!
The reason I mentioned that is because my ex-husband's family was different than mine. My mother-in-law used to tell me I spoiled my husband because I waited on him hand and foot.
I also relate to other cultures because I was with a man from Sudan for 7 years. Even though we were both Muslim, and I can speak Arabic, there were many differences.
Your husband is a good husband, feel very lucky because many women can not say that! Let him know you appreciate him, it can be even little things, like leaving a note for him telling him how much you love him. Making his favorite dinner, planning a special night out for the 2 of you...whatever works for you.
As far as the culture differences go, you both need to respect each others culture. You should learn about his, and he should learn about yours as well. Let him know his culture is special to you too. In my case, I had many African pictures and figurines around my home. If he speaks a different language, try to learn his language so you can speak to him in his native tongue. Most of it though just comes down to RESPECT, respect for each other's country, language, religion...everything.
I hope this helps you out some. If you would like to talk to me I would love to talk. You can call me, or I can call you, just let me know and I'll give you my number in a private message.
Take care and God Bless!
Marilyn
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