Hello Evelyn
I am not sure you would want me to post this here but it is so important, I thought I would post it in both of your forums.
Helen
Hello Everyone
This is really bad news but this is the kind of bad news everyone
needs to know whether you think so or not. Pass it on.
And whether you want them or not I am going to give you some of
my comments about this. :))
Watch the video first and/or read the article ...and then read my
comments below about how you might to talk to your teenager.
The most dangerous drug in the world:
SCOPOLAMINE - 'The Devil's Breath' chemical from Colombia can block free will, wipe memory and even kill.
Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2143584/Scopolamine-Powerful-drug-growing-forests-Colombia-ELIMINATES-free-will.html#ixzz24RsABLBg
Here's my comments and thoughts which I hope you might find
helpful. If not, just ignore them.
First, you must sit down with young people in your life and tell them
about this dangerous drug. If they tell you they know about this
drug already, ask them what they know about it. Tell them, it won't
hurt to hear about it again. INSIST ON IT! They may not have all
the right information. Tell them so. Say this, if they say they know
about this drug, "From whom did you hear about it? You might not
know everything about it and even if you do, I want you to watch
this video."
Anything they may have heard about this drug is more than likely
watered down and not the whole truth. Even the person selling
such a drug may or may not know everything about it.
Have them watch the video on the website. Have them watch it
periodically so they don't forget. Anyone who wants them to take
the drug isn't going to tell them all the bad stuff about it.
When you are talking to young people about drugs and other things
realize that it is pretty well a given that they will do what they will
do whether you want them to do it or not. So talk to them from
that angle.
Here's something I might say......
"I know that when you have to make a decision about drugs,
drinking, smoking, sex, etc., I will probably not be there to see to
it that you make the right decision. So tell me then, who decides
what you will do. Does your teacher? Does your Dad? Does your
friends? Who makes the decision?" Now wait to hear the answer.
Throughout this whole conversation, you are just giving them things
to think about and help them make, hopefully, the right decision if
they ever need to make it.
Continue to ask questions and wait for the answer. Don't insist.
Just wait. If they don't answer you might suggest the answer or go
to the next question. Remember, you are going to have this
conversation again and again, I hope. Once is not enough. You
might do it again in 6 months and then once or twice a year.
Keep in contact with your child and have them give you the latest.
If they don't bring up the subject of drugs, admit that it worries you
and that you have heard how the nicest of kids have gotten sucked
into taking them and just ruined their entire lives. Skidrow is full of
them. We should go down there and have a look sometime. So tell
me, are you being asked to do drugs?" If he/she says 'yes', ask
her/him what did they do or say or ??
You might ask, "If someone wants you to try a drug, what are you
going to do?" This type of question might not illicit a response.
That's ok! You want them to think about this and say to
themselves if not to you, "Yeah, what will I do?"
Then you might say, "May I tell you what I would do if someone
asked me to take a drug of any kind?" Response or not ... "I would
say, 'well, I'd like to think about it. You can do it if you want. I
won't tell on you but I don't want to do this right now'."
Continue "This way you are not saying 'no' to your friends and it
buys you time for what you might do next time or whatever. Most
friends want you to do this with them because they want you to be
bad with them or they are afraid you might tell on them. Be sure to
assure them that you will not tell on them. If you want to you can
say 'This is not for me' ".
"What will you do in case they ask you next time?" If the teenager
shrugs and doesn't answer, it is because they just haven't thought
about it.
Continue with "You might want to consider making new friends. You
will become like those you hang around with. Take a good look at
them and see if that is the way you want to be. Some of these
friends may be very likable but do you want to go down the road
they are going?"
"If you don't want to change friends, is there something you can
do to educate or change your friends mind about things like drugs
or other things? For example, after you watch this video yourself,
you can say to your friends,'There's a street drug you might not
have heard about (or maybe you have). Let's check it out. It's on
the internet. Come to my house and let's watch the video together'.
I am just throwing out some ideas. You need to do this in your
own way."
Now tell them, "This is a biggie. I want you to promise me one
thing. Promise that you will ALWAYS do research on anything
anyone might want you do. Please check it out FIRST! And check
it out very well ..on the internet, in books and people who might
know. Come and talk to me about it whenever you wish. I may not
know much about it but we can talk and do research together or
separately. Always check it out first, ok? Will you do that?" This
time expect an answer to this last question." Add, "You will have
plenty of time to take the drugs if that is what you choose. I hope
you won't choose that but if you do, it will probably be too late for
me to do something about it so the ball's in your hands. Are you
going to throw it or are you just going to let it fumble out of your
hand?"
"Most of the decisions people make occur on the spur of the
moment. Don't let that be you when it comes to something this
important."
Have your kid phone me and talk to me if you wish. I remember a
time when some teenagers wanted me to buy booze for them. I
said, "No way!!" They asked me why. I told them, "I love you too
much."
Please remember to pass this on ...all of it.
Helen
604-420-1544
For those who have someone already involved in drugs, send me an email for the name of something that may help them to break the addiction.
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