Chapter Four:The Way of Humanity16

The Founding Master said,
“The reason that a good relationship does not last is mostly because people are not mindful where they should be mindful, and are not free of thoughts where they should be free of thoughts. Not to be mindful where they should be means that they forget the various benefits they receive from someone, so that they treat the benefactor ungratefully if the benefactor hurts their feelings. Not to be free of thoughts where they should be free of thoughts means that, having brought some benefit to another, they have a thought that they should be repaid, so that when the beneficiary wrongs them, they feel even more hatred by remembering the benefit they had conferred and, thus, a good relationship does not last long but turns instead into resentment and hatred. Therefore, you must understand these principles well, and be mindful where you should be mindful and be free of thoughts where you should be free of thoughts. In your mutual ties, you must try to sustain good relationships for a long time, and take care that those relationships are not turned into inferior ties.”

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