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Jayson VanBeekom

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Eye of the Beholder
3/11/2009 9:55:17 AM
   Everybody knows about this. Parents who see that their child is moderately intersted in something immediately think that THEIR child will be the greatest at it. Take me for example. I like to draw, but I wouldnt call myself an artist. My mom on the other hand would want to have my "work" hung in a museum. They're pictures of cows having bowel movements! Who would want to see that in a museum?! I get wanting to encourage your child to "make it big", but at what cost? So for the young kids who think you're good at singing, don't listen to your parents. Open up a window because you stink. Feel free to message me about your opinions or if you want to call me an idiot. I'll totally understand.
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Luka Babic

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Re: Eye of the Beholder
3/11/2009 12:00:59 PM

Jeyson,

If we just can exchange the places!

Of course you cann`t be considered an idiot, but maybe I can.

I wish my mother (don`t have father; better to say he never wished the contact with me after their divorce) ... So, I wish my mother EVER told me "I THINK YOU SHOULD DO THAT ... you are born for that .... your biggest talent is this one ..."

Nooooooo. This lady washed her hands of any responsibility. ANY!

She consider her responsibility is :

1. to give me the roof and the bread, along with tooth-paste and clothes

2. to teach me the rules of the traffic

3. to teach me to bake an eggs and to make the sandwiches (all other must learn alone)

4. to take me first day to the first class of the elementary school

5. to ask me if I need, wish and desire anything ... and if I do ... she will do her best to provide it;

6. well, to kiss and hug etc ...

BUT FOR WHAT I WAS BORN - I must seek alone.

I can speak with her ... as much time I need ... but she is very sly ... and never would TELL EXACTLY WHAT WOULD SHE DO AT MY PLACE!

I hate that ... and she tells : she hates to land me her head to carry on my shoulders.

Now I must make the choice what to study. Medicine? Theater and movies? Physics? Biology? 

Don`t know. Like all of that.

Feel now really as an idiot.

And mother ... she is right now working too hard for one man - not for woman - to have the money for what I find is best for me.

Hm ...

How and where can I find it?

Luka


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Kathleen Vanbeekom

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Re: Eye of the Beholder
3/11/2009 12:58:19 PM

Hi Luka,

We live 2 blocks from elementary school, and I would Jayson halfway there when he started kindergarten at age 5, just to watch him cross the street, but then when he was alone, he would dawdle, sit on the ground, and not go the rest of the short way there!  One day it was really windy so I walked with him but he let go my hand and the wind blew him into a prickly bush, I just laughed and laughed!!  He took off like a kite!  I STILL laugh about it!

What I teach him now is mostly about women, to be careful of his wallet, and be aware of the intelligence or lack of it if choosing a partner someday.  Too smart or too stupid of a partner can be a lifelong disaster!!  Level-headedness and caution about money or other peoples plans for YOUR money is extremely important.

Jayson does not realize that he has major talent, and I'm not saying that because I'm his Mommy.  Since about age 3, he would suddenly NEED paper and pencil to draw something that was inside his head, IMMEDIATELY before the thought escaped him.  Then when he started to learn how to write at age 5 or 6 in school, he would be SO neat and exact with the way he made the letters, it was so important to him that everything that came from his hand was the way he wanted it to look, or he'd erase and re-do it, even if it was just alphabet letters. He put so much pressure on himself, the teachers and I just expected childish scribbles, he expects perfection from all his markings on the page.

When I was in school (Catholic school) in the 1970's we weren't allowed to make ANY  marks on the paper margins.  But my kids went to public school in the 1990's and Jayson drew doodles all over the blank spaces of his homework and his teachers would make notations that he SHOULD attend art school, they never said he shouldn't doodle on his work.

He doesn't believe that most people can't make a perfect circle with a pencil, he puts full effort into perfection of circles and everything, he draws cartoons of tiny details, facial expressions, swivel chairs with wheels and the cogs that hold the wheels onto the base of the chair, and 3-D imagery, background details that look farther away from the forefront drawings...

I like his drawings so much that some of them are in view of visitors to our home and they may think he draws offensive cartoons with somewhat offensive captions, but he's a boy, that's what boys do, and I'd rather have someone who has talent and a sense of humor and draws and writes instead of going out smoking, drinking, and making life mistakes.

ANYWAY!  I have been in awe of his talent since he was a tiny child.  BUT being an "artist" as many people have said he IS, not that he could be, IS...he refuses to be told what to do, when to do it, of course, and that's what he'd have to face in art school.  He thinks of it as going to a dusty boring place or a tomb in which he wouldn't find a way out. 

 

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Judy Smith

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Re: Eye of the Beholder
3/11/2009 4:09:46 PM

Hi Jayson!

You young gentlemen ought to be put over a knee.

 Jayson, it really looks as if your Mom believes in you more than you do.  Now you get those pictures to the museums RIGHT NOW!!  (Maybe you could remove the turds first?!!).

I know I should not have to lecture either one of you - so I won't.  What I will tell you is that you should feel and recognize how blessed you are to have moms who are proud of you, who believe in you and who encourage you in things that you are talented in.  You 2 boys have got 2 of the most wonderful Moms in the world who have given the first very important ingredient which is love!  They have added to that ALL of the tools and ability that you need to succeed.  The LOVE just pours out of both your sweet mothers.

So, leave it to Grammy Judy to become the sobering voice here.  You should BOTH be jumping for joy and thanking God every day for your Moms.

Now, Luka, my friend - I bet you are one good cook - so what is for dinner? - and I don't like sandwiches!!

I have to run now - will you two please stay out of trouble until I can get back?

(Kathleen - you have a real GEM on your hands - congrats, my friend)

Hugs!!

GRAMMY JUDY

 

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Kathleen Vanbeekom

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Re: Eye of the Beholder
3/11/2009 5:42:59 PM

Hi Luka,

Have you ever thought about studying Government or Foreign Policy?  Something like that?  One of my nephews went to college for those subjects and got a great job, now he's only 24 and makes twice as much money as men who are twice his age who've been working regular jobs all their life. 

You ARE very smart and observant AND great with English (and Spanish from what I've seen)  You could become a translator or something, or become a government liaison or a politician, hopefully a good one.

Don't think about a career to fit yourself into, think about your inner forces and build around what already makes you tick.

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