Great point Jon! Intellectual bullies can be a real pain in the butt. Sorry Kathy, I'm not trying to take over your forum but there are some great points being made here on your forum. There are some other great points being made here but I will let you address them. I just liked the responses you were getting. Take care everyone! JOHN

Hello, sweet-pea... When I started my 1st year of secondary school, I was one of the smallest in my year. People used to try and bully me because I looked like an easy target. Little did they know, that my mother had brought me up to look after myself, no matter how big the other guy was. So, they often found out that they had biten off more than they could chew. Then, I had a very sudden growth-spurt and by the end of the first year, I was one of the biggest boys in the school. If ever there was any bullying going on that I found out about, I took the victims under my wing and watchful eye and they would never have trouble again. I can't stand bullies and I will always stick up for the little guy...

Thanks John Sanchez, always a pleasure when you jump in and add something,Everyone can jump in and say what they feel,I do not mind at all.Thanks to Jon who brought to my attention on the intellectual bullying,I could not think of the word,But this is really what I was thinking,So much Intellectual bullying going on here at Adlandpro it makes my heart feel very sad,We are all different in different ways and have different expereiences but no one is better than the next person.Everyone has different ways of expressing themselves but when someone is bullying someone im gonna start telling them all about it. no one has the right to bully another person at all for any reason,I will not tolerate bullying any longer if I see or hear it you can bet youll hear from me.Im now on the bully patrol.I will be watching,So be very careful how you choose your words,kathy

Hi Kathy, I think that people who does this kind of things are in fact unsecure persons who imagine about themselfs that they are in control. And in order to be sure about that they act like that as "an insurance police", beside they feel powerful seeing the fear of the other person. Look at me, I'm somekind of psichologyst now LOL. Have a great day, Anamaria

Hi Kathy, Thanks for bringing up this topic. Many have been bullied before, and it makes the person being bullied feel helpless and weak. I agree with Gene though, that until you stand up to the bully, the behavior will not change and many times it will escalate instead of diminish. Problem is, that it takes some people years to stand up to this type of abuse because of the fear of retaliation or the actual fear of losing the relationship with this person (i.e. a spouse, friend or family member). Personally speaking, I was bullied for years by a close family member. Eventually, I learned to speak up & at first it shocked the person immensely. They still tried to bully me at other times, but when I learned to speak up in a way that showed them I would no longer tolerate the behaviour, by physically removing myself from their presence...they learned to also change their behaviour. Once I learned that I could take the power back that I had allowed them to have...it felt a huge burden had been removed, & I could then be free to enjoy my relationship with this person. Sometimes, I realize this isn't possible for people who have been in some abusive situations, but in my case it did work out this way, & I was also able to forgive the person who had abused me before. Have a blessed day! Cheryl