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Affirmation has been used by successful people
for centuries. It has helped many ordinary people
achieve extraordinary results in their lives. It
has turned many failures into successes. It has
made many miracles happen in the history of human
evolution. However, the majority of people who
use affirmation find that it doesn’t work. Why is
this the case? What are the elements that people
have missed when they use affirmation techniques?
I constantly ask myself these questions, and seek
for the answers. The result is, no one book gives
the complete answer. Some tips given in one book
work for a specific situation, but not for
others. Other books give other tips that work for
other situations, but not for this. I have tested
and filtered out the ineffective ones, and left
only what I call the ultimate effective technique
secrets.
The purpose of affirmation:
Before I give you the effective techniques, I
must make you understand the true purpose of
affirmation. Simply stated, the purpose of
affirmation is to pass a command from the
conscious mind to the subconscious mind. The
subconscious mind has the ability, in anything it
accepts as true, to do whatever it takes to turn
it into reality. The purpose of an affirmation is
to pass a message to the subconscious mind, and
to make it believe the message is true. So this
brings us to the first element of an effective
affirmation.
1. The affirmation must be believable to the
subconscious mind
Most of the affirmations people use, fail at this
first stage. They tend to give an unrealistic
message to the subconscious mind, hoping for a
positive response. If you are financially broke,
and you say to yourself “I earn $100,000 per
year”, is this believable to your mind? If your
body is totally out of shape, and you say to
yourself “I am very attractive”, is this
believable to your mind? I doubt it.
What if you are currently broke, and you want to
make $100,000 per year? What if you are out of
shape, and you want to make yourself attractive?
I find the best and easiest way is to use the
word “I choose” in your affirmation.
Instead of saying “I earn $100,000 per year.”
Say “I choose to earn $100,000 per year”
Instead of saying “I am very attractive”
Say “I choose to feel that people find me
attractive”
Do you feel the difference?
2. The subconscious mind seeks for proof
There is a misconception that the affirmation
must be repeated thousands of times before it can
be installed in the subconscious mind. This is
not necessarily true. You can use the repetition
method to embed your affirmation, but there is an
easier way. It is, at the time you find the
proof, state your affirmation. Many people stay
in poverty because they associate pain with
money. Whenever they spend their money, they
think of their bills, loans etc. This will
automatically lead to ultimate pain. It is the
feeling you attach to money that makes you rich
or poor. How can we turn this to our advantage?
Instead of feeling pain when spending money, what
if we associate pleasure with it? Next time when
you go out shopping, at the moment you take out
your money or credit card, say this affirmation
to yourself “I always have more than enough to
spend.”
See how you feel. This works because the
subconscious mind sees the proof. As long as you
have some money left in your pocket, this
affirmation is always true, so the subconscious
mind will believe it.
How about if we combine the first and second
methods together and make an affirmation like
this: “I choose to feel that I always have more
than enough to spend.” Say this at the time you
spend your money. See how you feel. You don’t
have to repeat it thousands of times, a few times
of real life proof will make your subconscious
mind believe it.
3. The affirmation must trigger feelings
A fact about the subconscious mind is that it
does not speak in words, you can only communicate
with it through feelings, and emotions. There are
two methods that you can use to trigger your
feelings. The first method is to use words that
involve feelings. Words like “fun, enjoyable,
comfortable, delightful” will work effectively.
The second method is to use imagination.
Visualize that the situation stated in your
affirmation has already come true. See yourself
in that situation and feel the feelings. (I will
give more details for effective visualization in
my future articles; stay tuned!)
4. The affirmation must obey the 3 Ps factor.
The 3 Ps are Positive, Present Tense, and
Personal.
Affirmations must be stated positively. Instead
of saying “I am not fat”, say “I choose to stay
slim”. The reason for this is that before the
mind knows the meaning of, “I am not fat”, it
must think of what fat means first. So saying
that statement will inevitably lead to the
feeling of being fat.
Affirmations must be in the present tense. Many
books mention this. However, I only agree to some
extent. If you say “I have a luxury car”, your
mind will not believe you. The reason I include
this here is that once it is combined with the
first technique, it will work perfectly. Now say
“I choose to have a luxury car”. Your mind will
do its best to bring it into reality.
Affirmations must be personal. Your subconscious
mind only works for you, not for others. If you
say “Ann loves me”, it will not be effective,
because you have no control over Ann. Now say “I
choose to feel that Ann really loves me”. This
time you are in control, because you can control
your own feelings.
5. Personal development affirmations should be
stated in the comparative
“I am confident” may not be as effective as “I am
becoming more and more confident”.
An even better affirmation might be “I choose to
feel more and more confident”.
The reason for using the comparative, is because
there is no end to how much more confident you
can become. Otherwise, your mind may think you
are already confident enough, and it will not
need to do any more work.
These 5 techniques are the most effective ones
that I have found from my research on
affirmations. If you can use all the 5
techniques, I guarantee your results will be
amazing. Even if you only use one or two of the
techniques stated here, you will find your
affirmations will become far more effective.
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