Important points to Teach Good Behavior

Teaching good behavior is an art.

Good teaching includes self-discipline for yourself and rewards for children on any signs of improvement.

Negative reinforcement is not recommended.

Forget about your parents that they did or could not teach you good behavior. Their time was different and your child's time is different.

Your children are your future so teach them good behavior.

In teaching them good behavior there are some Do's and some Don'ts.

Do:

• First and foremost thing - Always encourage your child and give the child lots of love and affection.

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• Reward good behavior. Reward may be praise or attention, toy or something important for the child. It may not necessarily money. Praise your child. Give an extra attention when your child does something right.

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• Your actions and words are copied or imprinted by your child. So act and speak the way you want your child to act and speak.

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• Be kind, but firm.

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• Preventing bad behavior is easier than correcting it afterwards. Remove temptations like breakable items, cigarettes, alcohol, guns, etc. before children go into trouble. If they want to explore some toys, instruments, machines do not stop them but let them in 'Your' presence.

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• Some of the annoying behaviors or small problems may be ignored but bigger problems need attention to be corrected, especially if the child's bad behavior might be harmful or dangerous. Anti-social behavior needs treatment.

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• Be consistent. Always treat a bad behavior the same way. Do not let the child learn to 'get away with it'.

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• Negative reinforcements are discouraged.

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• Always control yourself before correcting your child's bad behavior. Correct your child's bad behavior soon after it occurs, but wait until your anger is passed. Count one to ten, or may be ten to hundred, for example.

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• Rules. Make rules that are age appropriate. Younger children like infants and toddlers do not understand rules. Rules work best for children who are school-aged.

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• Time-out may help correct some of the bad behaviors like tantrums, whining, impulsive behaviors, fighting and arguing. Time-out works for children between 18 months and five years of age. Time-out should last one minute for each year of the child's age. For example four minute for four year-old-child.

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• Correct older children by taking away things they like. For example, TV watching, video games, etc.

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• Remember to understand and to tell the child that the behavior was bad, but the child isn't 'bad'.

That was a good post, especially the part about we're not our parents, that was a different time, etc...

Maya Angelou said "We did what we knew how to do, and when we knew better, we did better."

Dr. Phil says to find out what your child's currency is, and take it away or give it back accordingly.  Everyone has a different currency, even adults.

My father was strict and a yeller, but my parents never used profanity, and my father always tried to speak properly even though he grew up on a farm and went to a one-room schoolhouse where the teacher only taught what she knew.  I remember the times my said he was proud of me for speaking correctly, especially in a world where slang and laziness are the norm.

A positive comment from a stressed-out yeller is really something to be remembered.  Kids really do hold onto praise, especially if it's infrequent.