Hi [FirstName] Tomorrow at noon PST, I will be discussing the following topics with Coach Steve on Real Coaching Radio at www.nowlive.com. I hope you can listen in. Or call in with your questions. Relationships and Kids It is important for a couple to Bond before pregnancy. Otherwise, the marriage will have Kid Interruptus. Triangulation, or having a relationship between three people, happens. Mostly used for nosey neighbors and girlfriends, can be siblings or parents. Stages of Development --not all people have these happen just like this, this is a general outline just for understanding. People can regress back to earlier stage especially if These include Oral—smokers and drinkers and drugs and finger suckers, and gourmet eaters. These people focus on self and may be narcissistic or dependent. Anal—perfectionistic, clean, detail oriented and become obsessive compulsive, reaction formation—do opposite if really dirty Phallic—focus on penis, sexuality, -- Oedipal relationship—Kid gets a lot of mommy time, results include Take mom from Dad (Dad may feel left out, find someone else) Genital—hope for healthy sexuality Mature-- Never happens completely, always have inner child to take care of. NO ONE Will take care of inner child like YOU. Reparenting process needed. IF Dad gets less attention, "Kids are first" mistake, focus on job, new friends, girlfriend 80% kids get into trouble have an absent Dad Boundaries—teach them OK to say NO, practice by doing it to parents, parents should NOT pitch a fit. Taking on the Parents, fights, arguments, taking over the kitchen -- Identification process with parents Building Self Esteem and Confidence-- Reality based praise