Getting The Most From A Romantic Relationship


Romantic relationships happen because of the hopes and dreams a couple has for a
happy life together. Being concerned with what is good about the relationship is
what makes the relationship good. Being too concerned with the problems that a
relationship has will take away from the enjoyment that the relationship can
provide.

This article suggests ways for staying aware of what makes your romantic
relationship worthwhile.
Don't Expect Too Much --
Don't expect a perfect relationship. That happens only in fairy tales. If you
expect everything to be wonderful, it makes your relationship less valuable by
comparison. Problems will occur. You will get hurt. Don't be so concerned with
the problems that you loose awareness of what is good in the relationship.

Romance and love will more likely happen if you allow them to happen instead of
making them a goal. If you make love the goal, you will compare how the
relationship is now to what you think it should be. You will be continually
disappointed. Making the relationship better should be the goal. Pay attention
to treating each other fairly and helping each other. If love happens, it will
be based on believing that both of you can continue to build a good
relationship.

Your attitude should signal the other person that you will try to patiently work
through each other's shortcomings. It won't be easy. Being tolerant and
non-condemning is a challenge. But consciously making an effort to be tolerant
goes a long way.

Build Upon What Is Good --
Find activities that you both like and do them together. These can be activities
such as gardening, cooking, hobbies, conversation, recreation, an interest in
art, charity volunteering, and family activities. Having interests that are
shared, keeps a couple involved in each other's lives.
Share ideas to find ways to more enjoy living. Tell your sweetheart about
strategies you use for such things as achieving goals and enjoying yourself.
Tell each other about what you think is interesting, what is worthwhile, and
what is encouraging. If you share positive ideas, you will think of each other
as pleasant and enjoyable.

Encourage your partner to act and make decisions. Both of you will be able to
accomplish more with the other's support and encouragement. When there is a
disagreement, be patient. If you need to criticize, offer a positive alternative
rather than a condemnation. Your encouragement likely will produce more good
results than will your objections.
The good things in life are much more important than the disappointments. Reward
yourself for the good in what you are doing and take some time to do what you
enjoy.
Alan Detwiler is the author of the ebook Date Ideas: Fun Things To Do For
Couples available at http://www.Amazon.com. He has a web site with a section
about fun things to do for couples at http://www.leisureideas.com/date
ideas.htm.

Kathy Hamilton/simikathy.com