A friend has been seeing a counselor. He says, ""I think that she is too judgmental to be a good therapist". What does that mean to you?

People always quote the bible, "judge not that ye be not judged" but that doesn't mean that we shouldn't  judge. If you read further into the scripture it tells you that if you judge  you are to judge rightly. And "that ye be not judged" means that if you judge someone else you have to remember that whatever you judge you will be judged on it.
The first person you should judge should be yourself. We're judged according to how we judge others and if our lives are worse than those we judge we are hypocrits and that's worse than what we're judging the other person for.

If a person is judgemental and judges others without watching out over their own wrongdoings, then they shouldn't be judging.

Being judgemental is one thing..being concerned and caring enough to point out something you're doing in order to help you is another so it depends on which one the therapist was doing. I think if a friend is trying to help, we should consider that before we call them "judgemental".

Becky

Hi Kathy,

Considering what a counselor does this can mean alot of things. Let's analyze a counselor's step real quick.

1. Listen
2. Identify the problem/concern
3. Relay back for clarity the problem/concern to client.
4. Offer legal, viable solution(s) to the client.

This is a nutshell summary.

Now client has really two choices here; to agree or disagree with solution(s) offered. In my observations through life most people don't like what they hear when a solution is offered. So they become judgemental of the person with the solution.

There are some in the profession (IMHO) that have lost touch with reality and will give an answer that could possibly defy the law or even life itself depending on the problem/concern at hand.

But from the words you gave us in the post it sounds like the friend is being resistive to the answer he got from the therapist.

This is only my 2 cents.

Kenneth

This goes to show how being judgemental works.
If you judge someone else for being judgemental, you're being judgemental.

Becky