Codependency recovery, inner child healing, Joyous Spirituality - Joy to You and Me "Codependence is a very vicious and powerful form of Delayed Stress Syndrome. . . Codependence is being at war with ourselves - which makes it impossible to trust and Love ourselves. Codependence is denying parts of ourselves so that we do not know who we are. Recovery from the disease of Codependence involves stopping the war within so that we can get in touch with our True Self, so that we can start to Love and trust ourselves." "In order to start be-ing in the moment in a healthy, age-appropriate way it is necessary to heal our "inner child." The inner child we need to heal is actually our "inner children" who have been running our lives because we have been unconsciously reacting to life out of the emotional wounds and attitudes, the old tapes, of our childhoods." "Codependence deals with the core issues of the human dilemma. Codependence has grown out of the cause from which all symptoms arise. That cause is Spiritual dis-ease: not being at ease, at one with Spiritual Self." "We are not sinful, shameful human creatures who have to somehow earn Spirituality. We are Spiritual Beings having a human experience." Logo of Joy to You & Me Web Site.Welcome to Joy to You & Me The web site of Robert Burney and Joy to You & Me Enterprises. Robert is a codependency therapist, Spiritual teacher, and author of the Joyously inspirational book - Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls "The point that I am making is that our understanding of Codependence has evolved to realizing that this is not just about some dysfunctional families, our very role models, our prototypes, are dysfunctional. Our traditional cultural concepts of what a man is, of what a woman is, are twisted, distorted, almost comically bloated stereotypes of what masculine and feminine really are." "It is necessary to own and honor the child who we were in order to Love the person we are. And the only way to do that is to own that child's experiences, honor that child's feelings, and release the emotional grief energy that we are still carrying around." (Quotations in this color are from - Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls - by Robert Burney) Kathy/simikathy.net

Kathy;

I have suffered from Codependency. It wasn't until I joined a Christ-centered 12-step program that I discovered what my problem was. I have read several books on the subject. Definately me at the time.

Thank God there is recovery. Although a painful process of looking at yourself through a magnifying glass. God is there to wipe your tears, he keeps them in a bottle you know.

Recovery is possible, one day at a time. With out God I know I would not be telling any of this. He is my confidence.

My husband is a recovering Alcoholic. We are involved with a program through our church that just started. Leader of our group is Tom, a member of our church, my husband will be helping him. I will be beginning the Women's group as we grow, anyway. CelebrateRecovery.com For all types of addictions, it's also a Christian-based 12-step program coupled with the Beattitudes.

Thank you for sharing this topic, Kathy, there are Codependency of just about everything these days. It's even crippling a lot of people who need an ear, for someone to listen, non-judgingly.

With Christ's Love, Jackie

Hi Kathy!

Words from Robert Burney:

Work For World Peace: Heal Your Inner Child

Wonderful article Kathy!

Thanx for sharing.  LOL.....but I haven't even left neverland yet! 

Sunday, September 24, 2006

12:03:25 AM

Hi Kathy & Everyone,

You continually amaze me with the subjects & topics that you share with us.

Unfortunately so many people have, or are experiencing co-dependency. And what is just as sad if not sadder is that a lot of them are not even aware, or understand that they are, or what to do. They have kind of grown to accept things as their norm.

The first step to recovery is to acknowledge that things are dysfunctional, and to seek assistance.

Next begin to working on improving yourself. Some suggestions are, pick supportive friends & a healthy environment.

Become as educated as possible , and study & apply alternative habits.

To strive to grow towards and in interdependency vs. co-dependency.

To accept your responsibility and the part you have with codependency

To recognize unhealthy habits, like enabling, rescuing, etc.

To start forming positive habits like open communication, respect, as well as boundaries.

Co-dependency did not just happen over night, and eliminating it won't either. But it is achieveable.

May Everyone Live Long Healthy & Happy!