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Relationship Red Flags that You Shouldn’t Ignore
Hello my friends,
You watch the red flags glare back at you, but gosh, he’s just so good-looking or she’s just so darn nice. So you dismiss those relationship red flags in favor of seeing where this can go. The problem with turning a blind eye to those red flags is that eventually they’ll come back to haunt you. If you ignore the bad omens of a relationship in the making, you’ll only end up hurt and resentful, and in the end you might unfairly place blame on the other person. But in reality, you’ll have nobody to blame but yourself. Don’t ignore the following red flags and warning signals of a doomed relationship…
To find that future partner who you can spend the rest of your life with, dating is necessary to separate the good from the bad, the complementary from the distracting. Anyone who has ever dated knows that you never know what kind of people you may encounter. One thing’s for sure – the more you date, the more relationship red flags you’re bound to watch fly, and possibly ignore, in your pursuit of love. Ignoring red flags is not the smartest move if you’re serious about finding that special someone, because usually those red flags were your first indicator to move on. Find out why the following relationship red flags should have you saying “Next!” when it comes to embarking on a new relationship.
Still Living at Home
More and more adults are still living at home these days, so if it’s more common, should it really be considered a relationship red flag? Yes! Adults who still live at home are usually in no hurry to grow up or become independent and financially responsible. This doesn’t make for attractive qualities in a potential partner.
The only time it might be acceptable for an adult to still be living at home is if they’re taking care of aging parents or have temporarily fallen on some other kind of hard time. In these cases, give them a temporary break.
Never Inviting You Over
They’re quick to suggest hanging out at your place but never offer up their own digs. This could mean that they’re trying to conceal something from you, and should definitely be considered as a relationship red flag. Maybe their home includes a family and children that they’re not telling you about or maybe their home resembles the aftermath of a hurricane
Never inviting you over (or never wanting to be seen in public with you, not giving you contact info, giving you vague answers, etc.) could mean the person is cheating on someone else or it could simply mean that they’re ashamed of something. Whatever it is, you want a potential future partner to be open and honest with you about simple things.
Moving Too Quickly
Be aware of someone who moves at the speed of light when trying to win you over. It’s usually a sign that they’re uncomfortable being by themselves or are looking for someone to help solve their problems.
Asking for intimacy or marriage too quickly or spilling loads of very personal information could be acts of desperation, and that’s definitely a bad omen for picking the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Be especially aware if the person has children they’re too quick to put you ahead of.
Constantly Talking Bad about an Ex
They may not like their ex, but there’s no reason to put up with an ongoing verbal assault on them, no matter how sour the past relationship was. Not only is the person offering too much information, but it makes them look tacky, resentful and unwilling to take responsibility for what their shortcomings were in the relationship. Plus, if your relationship doesn’t work out, would you want that person constantly talking bad about you later on? Be aware of someone who talks too freely about past relationships or exes in general, especially if it’s all negative talk and sounds like unresolved anger.
Excessive Parental Attachment
It is one thing to love your mother and father, but it’s another thing to have an excessive relationship with them when you’re an adult. “Excessive” in these terms means “being a mama’s boy,” only having your parents as your friends, letting your parents influence you in every facet of your life, etc. Besides, excessive parental attachment doesn’t bode well in a marriage because oftentimes the parents come before the spouse, and that kind of problem can quickly damage the relationship. To be an adult means to be independent and to have a life of your own.
Fresh Out of a Relationship
Timing can be everything, so when you could potentially get involved in a rebound relationship, it may be time to reconsider moving forward. While a rebound relationship can occasionally work out for the best, it’s usually one of the relationship red flags to be very cautious of. If you’ve been through a break up, you know that it can take a very long time to completely recover. Chances are that if someone is fresh out of a relationship, they’re going through the recovery process, leaving little time to completely focus on you or maybe using you to fill their loneliness.
If you do nothing else, at least take heed of these relationship red flags, no matter how great a person’s other attributes may be. It could be the difference between inevitable heartache and happiness with someone else who only flies with the color green.
Are You Over Your Ex?
It's been months since you and your ex parted ways, and you've been navigating the road to recovery ever since. Has that road been surprisingly smooth or unbearably bumpy?
Heres a quiz:
Are You Over Your Ex?
It's been months since you and your ex parted ways, and you've been navigating the road to recovery ever since. Has that road been surprisingly smooth or unbearably bumpy? Find out if you're really ready to move on to new adventures in love and life or if you're still hung up on your ex.
Are You Over Your Ex?
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1.When did you and your ex break off your relationship?
Sometime last year maybe?
Not soon enough.
It was exactly five months, three weeks, six days and 20 hours.
2.The last time you went through your memory box from the relationship was?
Last night.
A few months ago when I was having a tough day.
I threw out the box when I threw him out!
3.You receive an email from your ex asking how you are and what you're up to. What kind of dialogue does your responding email include?
"I'm OK. How are you? I miss you terribly. Can we meet somewhere to talk?"
"I'm doing great! My new boyfriend is the best and my friends and family adore him. By the way, he's a very successful entrepreneur. I've never been happier."
"I'm very well. The new job is going great and I finally bought my new car. Hope all is well with you. Take care!"
4.You and your ex's mutual friend is having a 40th birthday party. You know your ex will be there. Do you attend?
No, it might be too awkward, and I don't feel like putting on a fake smile.
I'll go if it fits into my schedule.
I'll be there with bells on. After all, why waste this weight loss on nothing! He'll be so jealous.
Are You Over Your Ex?
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5.You find your ex's favorite college sweatshirt in the back of your closet while spring cleaning. What do you do with it?
Email him to let him know I'll put it in his mailbox, and hope I'll see him outside when I drop it off.
Sleep in it.
Use it as a rag to wash my car.
6.You're out doing errands, and you see your ex's mother walking across the street. What do you do?
Cover your face with a newspaper and quickly get to your car. You're not exactly ready to face her.
Wave to her from across the street and walk on.
Flag her down and give her a hug, and then ask how your ex is doing and if he's dating anyone new.
7.How often do you think about your ex?
Every once in awhile, when you hear his favorite song on the radio or smell his cologne on someone else.
Every morning when you wake up, throughout the day and right before you go to bed.
Never. My ex who?
8.You're on a blind date with a handsome new guy. What's going though your mind?
"His sense of humor and smile reminds me of my ex."
"This guy is great. Why couldn't I have met him sooner?"
"Why am I even here? Nobody can ever compare to my ex."
9.Your mom informs you that she has heard your ex is getting married. What is your reaction?
Good for him. He deserves to be happy.
You have a crying spell for about 20 minutes, and then feel OK about it.
You are thinking of what you will wear when you are objecting to the marriage during the ceremony.
10.You just learned that you finally received the promotion you've been wanting for the past year. Who do you call first to tell the news?
You pick up the phone to call your ex since he's the one who had given you such good advice about it, but then have second thoughts, and dial your buddy instead.
You immediately call your ex to tell him that his advice paid off. After-all, what better excuse to talk to him.
You call your mom and ask if she wants to go out for drinks to celebrate.
These you will have to answer yourself, Do you think you are over your X???
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