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Linda Miller

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Are you your own worst enemy?
8/6/2006 11:03:39 PM

Hello dear friends,

Boy, this is sure food for thought.  Yowzers!

HELP! I'M MY OWN WORST ENEMY!

Do you know what's standing between you and success? Do you know what the greatest threat to your ultimate happiness is?

Are you sitting down for this?

It could be you!!

We encounter self-sabotaging behavior when we are afraid of failure and sometimes afraid of success! Oh yes... you CAN be afraid of success! Humans resist changes in their lives - it's "safe" to stay in our comfort zone - even if it is boring!

Ten of the most common beliefs self-saboteurs hold are:

I am not... (clever, pretty, handsome, etc.)... enough.
It is my responsibility to make the sad people around me, happy again... to make them feel better.
I must think of others first - otherwise I'm being selfish (and what would mother say about that!)
It is egoistical to love yourself.
If I allow myself to "shine", people will think I am vain and arrogant.
I am "here" because of circumstances outside my control - it's not my fault. I'm a victim of circumstance / parents / life, etc.
Why should I bother - there's no point to anything...
I can't make a mistake! Mistakes are bad! Nobody will like me - I'll lose my job - the world will stop spinning!
The future will just be like the past... these things always happen to me, so why bother!
Let's face it; I simply am not worthy of your attention. I'm not worthy of being loved, complimented, opportunities, wealth, etc. Other people are... but not me, so if you'll excuse me, I'll just go crawl back under my rock where I belong!
Hellooo! Yes, you! Under the rock... come on out of there and listen up! Your enemy is about to be exposed...

Procrastination
Perfectionism
Indecision
Burn-out
Criticism
You may be able to identify more, but these will do for a start, don't you think?

Slaying the enemy...

1. Choose a goal with meaning for you, break it down into baby steps - divide it into smaller pieces - you don't have to achieve the entire goal in one day! It doesn't work that way.

2. Not being perfect is part of being human. Look around you and see all the imperfect people experiencing love and happiness and wealth! What does that tell you?!

3. Being decisive is about taking responsibility for your thoughts and actions. It has a lot to do with your level of self-confidence. What? You have no confidence? There are books and tapes and coaches out there who can change this!

4. Learn to say 'no'. Try small things first and build up from there. If someone, your boss perhaps, asks you to do a million things at once and you feel uncomfortable saying no, ask him to choose the priority. At first, people may be surprised by your "no" if they are not used to it. If they have an issue with your "no", realize that is "their" problem - not yours! You are NOT responsible for other people - only yourself!

5. Being overly critical stifles your happiness. Use positive affirmations every day, about yourself and those things around you of which you are critical. Silencing your inner critic will take practice - but practices makes perfect (oops! There's that word again!).

Don't be a rock dweller... you are a beautiful, imperfect, deserving, individual being, not a beetle... but hey, even beetles have a right to be successful and happy - and so do you!

Terri Levine
http://www.coachinstitute.com
877-401-6165
Comprehensive Coaching U, Inc.

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Luis Miguel Goitizolo

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Re: Are you your own worst enemy?
8/7/2006 12:06:39 AM

Dear Linda,

This is not the first time I visit your interesting forums, but I was not able to post until now. 

I have known for a long time that our worst enemy is within us. Not only because I have heard or read about it somewhere but because I AM one of the worst self-saboteurs I have ever seen myself.

I am perfectionist (I previously used to think it is because I am a Virgo), I procrastinate, suffer from chronic indecision, lack in self-confidence, and so on.

Only after I began to work in this trade, a year and a half ago, was I able to fight this habit as I discovered there is a work I really enjoy doing. And while I am yet not completely cured of it I am on my way to it.

I believe the breakpoint was when I started reading ‘The Science of Getting Rich’, a classic by Wallace Wattles, mainly based on the power of positive thinking backed by the most sane and solid philosophy. I truly recommend it to anyone.

 

Best Wishes,

 

Luis Miguel Goitizolo

 

"Choose a job you love and you will not have to work a day in your life" (Confucius)

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Re: Are you your own worst enemy?
8/7/2006 1:00:12 AM
Hi Linda, thanks! this is a great post. I am certainly my own worst enemy and U self-sabotage all the time by losing my temper with fools, idiots and liars. LUIS, Another great book you should, (if you have not already) buy, read, study and keep for reference is one of the worlds all time best sellers called "THINK AND GROW RICH" By N. Hill Please, Take Care! Neil
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Re: Are you your own worst enemy?
8/7/2006 8:32:32 AM
Hello Linda, What a wise women you are. I enjoy your forums immensely. To add a little to your previous post I would like to say.- In almost all problem areas of our life ,YOU are the problem and YOU are the solution. It may not seem that way but you are encountering your resistance ,not from outside sources but from you beliefs inside youself. I cant do it. It wont happen it's too hard everything always goes wrong I dont know what to do It doesnt matter If you keep saying things like this to yourself . guess what? Yep!! that is what will happen.. Take care my friends and remember "the power of the mind is a powerful thing". Mind Power the #1 international best seller by John Kehoe is a must read ... Take care and enjoy your day..IT WILL BE A FANTASTIC DAY. Jenny. .
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Re: Are you your own worst enemy?
8/7/2006 1:28:45 PM
Hi Linda,

I love your forums! I have been into positive thinking for about 3 years now. I always learn something new or am reminded of some little thing I have forgotten when reading your forums.

I don't have time to post very often, but had to say thank you for this post, for it came at the perfict (oops) just the right time.

Thanks for all you do!


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