If you want to attract strong, powerful, confident leaders … you have to
project the image of a strong, powerful, confident leader. It is a proven
fact that like attracts like.
Weak, unsure, followers who struggle with self-doubt
will undoubtedly attract weak, self-doubting followers. Strong, confident,
self-assured leaders always seem to attract strong leaders.
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We have seen it happen so many times over the years. We
have seen many, many brazen, over confident, braggarts build large network
marketing organizations. We look at these folks and ask ourselves how they
did it. They don’t seem all that capable and proficient, yet they do attract
some leadership.
The answer is … they projected an air of confidence and
self-assuredness, even if it may be abrasive to some and obnoxious to
others. What does this example teach us? It teaches us several things:
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You don’t have to be an expert to look and act like
one. (All these Internet eBook sites prove it.)
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Strong, confident personalities attract strong
individuals.
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Those who take charge of the conversation control
the process.
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It’s not always about what you say; many times it’s
more important how you say it.
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When was the last time you really gave serious thought
to the language you use? It is something that you really have to focus on;
like anything worthwhile, implementing a success vocabulary will likely take
some time & effort to bring about positive changes. To this day,
we constantly analyze our conversations in
order to retrain our brain.
We're not going to go into every example here today. That’s an
exercise for you to do at home as part of the analysis and learning process.
We are going to a give you few examples that will assist you in getting the
ball rolling.
Weak Word or Phrase #1: Maybe
Example: “Maybe you could share with us a little bit
more about what you’re doing on the Internet?”
A better choice: Definitely
Example: “We would definitely like to learn a little more about
you’re background and experience.
What is the first thing you think of when someone tells
you “maybe”? Maybe is a very indecisive word used to avoid making a
decision. Leaders make decisions.
Definite is a word of power, of authority, of
decisiveness … a word that conjures up positive action. Definite is a
“without a doubt” yes! There is no room for misinterpretation of what you
think or mean when you use the word “definite.”
Do you want to follow someone who is not definite
about what they want to achieve?
Weak Word or Phrase #2: Never
Example: “I’m never going to get this stuff!”
A better choice: Soon
Example: “I’m going to stay focused and will master all
of this very soon!”
Never is a word of no future, no hope. It brings
thoughts of inevitability and a lack of power or control to influence the
outcome. The word never is used by people who watch things happen or let
things happen.
When you hear soon, you think about excitement and
eagerness for coming events. When you use the word soon, the person on the
other end of the phone will be thinking that you can make things happen.
Do you want to align yourself with someone who lets
things happen or someone who makes things happen?
Weak Word or Phrase #3: Problem
Example: I’m having this major problem getting my
domain
forwarding to work. I need your help!!!
A better choice: Challenge
Example: I’m having a small challenge with my domain forwarding. When can we
schedule a time to work on it?
Every thing we encounter in life challenges us to
rise above. The winners in life focus on solutions, whiners focus on the
issue.
Weak Word or Phrase #4: Try
Example: “I’ll try to get to that this afternoon.”
A better choice: Will
Example: “I’ll have that completed and off to you
this afternoon.”
Try is a very weak and non-committal word. When I hear
someone use the word try, I’m thinking that they are going to give it a
half-hearted attempt or go through the motions, but there is no guarantee
that they are going to accomplish the task.
The word will is a very positive commitment to get
things done. Try is a word of accomplishment and success.
Do you want to do business with someone who tries or
someone who succeeds?
Weak Word or Phrase #5: I wish
Example: I wish I could sponsor somebody already!
A better choice: I am
Example: I am committed to doing what it takes to sponsor new members
on my team!
I wish is a word that connotes lack of belief and lack
of commitment. Again, it leaves you with a feeling of being powerless to
impact the outcome or result; hence you have to wish for a result.
The phrase ‘I am’ leaves little room for doubt about
your mindset, belief level and commitment. ‘I am’ is a phrase of empowerment
and confidence.
Do you want to join us business with people who wish
for success, or with people who are committed to success?
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That's enough to get you started, to set the wheels in
motion. The question for each of is, “What image are we
projecting to the people we interact with. Are we a confident, empowered
leader or a follower plagued by uncertainty and low self-confidence? You’re
words tell the story!
To your success,
Patrick
Burns