Kate, thanks for your response. What you are saying goes back to my philosophy that most people don't study for themselves, they are either hypnotised by some fanatical leader or they have been grossly mislead and failed to do their own diligent study.

PS: Is there such a thing as the wrong question?   I was told that all questions are good questions whether they are or not, no offense intended!!

Thanks Rudy, I was thinking in terms of the people who lost their loved ones five years ago. I did lose a loved one back in Dec of 2001 and I basically went thru the process you just described. Some folks take longer than others to follow the cycle depending upon their circumstances.

You're right, James!  The only wrong question is the one which goes unasked.  And, that is something we as humans need to do unceasingly...ask questions and find answers.

Kate