In response to Winston,

Is not the pourpose of being a member of Adland to network and build your business through relationships that you build here in Adland?

Is the friends list not a way to build those relationships?

Is the Direct Contact not one of the CORRECT methods of communicating about your product /service with the people on your friends list?

I know that going to peoples profiles and using the "Send me a message" link is not acceptable even though members that have been members for a long time (over 6 months) and should know better do this on a regular basis. 

Personally I think I sent an average of one a week and they were often helping others to pass on none advertising important info.

I actually want to thank you Winston for this  part of your post in particular.

 Quote    "For ALL members here at Adland, participation in anything is "optional". So, just because you pay for something doesn't mean that I or any other member of Adland have to participate in it.   "Unquote

Yet another confirmation that there is no value in paying to be and Adlander.

In response to Jenny,

I quite agree with you that many members are under the illusion that  the more friends they have the better they look especially in the statistics of the most friendly section.

The next illusion many are under is that if a member has a lot of posts then they must be worth following.

What many do not take into account is it is not quantity that counts but quality. I will not name names we all know who the culprits are that post for the sake of posting and or going around as many forums as they can find placing wild ads that read identical in every post they make and often post in threads where they have not business posting.

The other point they do not take into account is that the members of their friends list will send out messages to them, so then we come to the situation being discussed here and that is they are swamped with too many emails.

If i may have a say, i agree with some of you, its quality not quantity that counts for all here at adland, many younger adlanders are getting confused as to how to post and to what to post for! Saying just about anything thats not in context with the original. not a numbers game niether that makes your strong its what you have to offer that does. Being humble sometimes takes its toll but we must all remember we are here as a family and should be like one, respect,manners, and honesty. If you have an agenda at hand then do so with cousing any harm to one another, if you are within the context of the post then your in the clear. Being honest with yourself will have many follow in the long run.  Love Thomas. 

I read each one.  Each one has great potential.  As a free mentor I see lots of opportunity to help people succeed.  I love e-mails.

Tom Osbeck