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REBUILDING YOUR LIFE AGAIN
By Kathy Hamilton
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Well most of you know me, my name is Kathy Hamilton formerly Kathy Martin. It has been a long amazing journey for me. Let me start by saying that I lived my whole life in “Domestic Violence” until there came a point in my life where I said "NO MORE".
So I decided to start changing my life, trying slowly to somehow rebuild it the way I wanted it to be. You see, about 4 years ago I found this Community online that literally started the ball rolling to change my life. It was the most magical place ever where I met amazing people.
I had a chance to express myself and so many amazing people came forth and told me their stories as well. Over time, I decided I was going to make a difference in other people’s lives because of what I passed through, by sharing my heart and feelings with them; always trying to be there to listen and to help if I could or just be a friend.
I have been through so much in the last 4 years it has been quite amazing. Through my travels and social networking, I have encountered very hurtful people who do not understand that their words are so damaging and that once you say something ugly, you cannot take it back easily. I have also met many wonderful friends and exciting opportunities; so I try to coach these men and women on how to empower themselves to better their lives and others too. In the process, I have also experienced my own self growth by leaps and bounds. Funny and great things do happen when you are passionate about what you believe in and become so determined to succeed in everything you truly desire.
If we all re-evaluate our lives and just make one small positive change each day, then our lives would change so dramatically for the better. As the saying goes "You are what you think". So I Continue to walk by faith and continue growing in my journey in life making my life better as I equally help others make theirs better too. Make sure you keep this in mind and we can make a huge difference in each other’s life. Open your hearts and experience the joy in your life.
The Greatest discovery of my life is that I found out by being able to change my life I was changing the attitude of my mind. Someone once said "Take charge of your thoughts, you can do what you will for them". So there I changed the way I think. It was for me alone, for I had to form a new and better thought pattern to give me victory over myself. I decided to put my personal discovery into action so others can learn from me and I learn from them too.
Altogether too many people are defeated by the every day problems of life. They go struggling, perhaps even whining through their days with a sense of dull resentment at what they consider the bad breaks life has presented to them. It is a shame that people should let themselves be defeated by the problems, cares, and difficulties of human existence, and it is also unnecessary.
I certainly do not ignore hardships and tragedies of this world, but I do not allow them to dominate me. By learning how to cast out dominating factors from ones mind and by refusing to become mentally subservient to them you can rise above obstacles which ordinarily might have defeated you.
Obstacles are simply not permitted to destroy my happiness and well being. I teach people around the World how to have faith in themselves and in their abilities. Without a humble heart and true confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy. I teach People affirmations such as "I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me" My passion is to help everyone around the world to have faith in themselves and believe in their natural gifts and talents. I want to be able to help empower men and women around the world to achieve their goals, dreams, gifts and financial success. This is what I try to teach others around the WORLD along with teaching my self.
My best friend, John MacNaught, has been my inspiration in helping me heal and has been the biggest influence in my life, my self growth along with others. He is my Mentor and I want to acknowledge him for helping me change my life positively forever. Thank you John.
Sometimes stress and worry can spiral out of control and they can add to that feeling of despair. We can create our own personal problems and walk around with a permanent grey cloud unaware because we continually repeat the hurt and upset that we have been feeling. Our minds will focus on an upsetting event and constantly play the event over and over again.
Imagine if you were made to watch a scary horror film - how do you feel after you have watched the film? Imagine watching the film on ten occasions one after the other - how would you feel? Repeating the hurt that you have received helps no one. You become more negative and people avoid you, and you in turn become more frustrated and add to the problem.
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The problem of repeating negative emotions such as anger, hatred, and mistrust is very serious. When we repeat the hurt we relive it and we make it look, feel and seem bigger, we have created a monster that does not actually exist.
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If you feel that this is happening to you, you need to take a break, re-assess and take a different perspective.
The following ideas may help you:
- Make your own self care plan and keep it with you for life. If things are getting too much, revert back to your self care plan. Sometimes we do forget to look after ourselves, or don't know how to.
- Focus on something else: Getting away from your troubles will allow you to reflect differently.
- The solution to life's troubles is sometimes right under our noses and focusing on something else helps us to see things differently.
- Relax; do not add to your busy life: A good old fashioned day off is just what the doctor ordered. Do the things that comfort you; take a nice hot bath, read a book, eat chocolate, or have a massage
- Do not drink alcohol: Alcohol is a depressant and will make you feel more depressed the next day. Using alcohol to try to solve your problems will inevitably lead to further feelings of despair,
- Eat regular meals that are well balanced and contain the correct nutrients: Skipping meals adds to fatigue and stress. Certain foods are mood boosters.
- Get a good night's sleep: After a good night's sleep we begin the day in a better frame of mind. Try and keep to the same routine. Go to bed at 10 pm and rise at about 7 am.
- Happiness List: Make a list of all the things that make you feel happy. Carry the list with you and read it once in a while. Focus on the feeling of happiness. Do the things that make you feel happy and treat yourself.
- Help Others: Helping others helps you. By making someone else's life more pleasurable you gain friendship, support, skills, respect and new opportunities.
- Have fun, be spontaneous and decide to do something new: Push your boundaries and enjoy the moment.
- Exercise: Exercise has been proven to lift your mood. You do not have to be super fit as 20 minutes of exercise a day is all you need to do. Start slowly and build yourself up. Exercise has to be fun otherwise you will not commit to getting fit.
- Meet new people or start a new hobby: The old saying "A change is as good as a rest" is certainly true. A new direction in life can offer new opportunities. Education is an attitude of mind and helps to broaden your experiences. Look in your local library or town hall. Research groups on the internet.
- Play Music: Classical music works on different levels and has a soothing effect on your mind, body and soul. The power of music is astonishing.
- Write Poetry: Writing poetry allows us to express our inner feelings and helps us make sense of our world.
- Start the day with Meditation: Your perception of the world starts with you. Starting the day with a clear mind allows you to concentrate and listen clearer. Qualities such as patience, calmness and tolerance develop.
By becoming more centered you co-operate and have the ability to choose your responses to difficult situations.
Thank you so much Sam, for this opportunity; it is truly a blessing to be featured here in your Article of Virtue forum.
Blessings to you all my friends!
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:: Kathy Hamilton/ simikathy
I walk by faith, not by sight
I am Ambassador and Charter Member at Perfect Networker Community-
I also interview everyone on my blog talk Radio show-
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Kathy Hamilton is Adlandpro Community Ambassador. A very active and well known member who has contributed immensely to the growth of the community and its teaming members.
She coaches men and women on how to empower themselves to better their lives and others through her online interaction and networking business.
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