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Finding Peace Of Mind
9/21/2005 7:06:40 PM
Hello All My AdlandPro Friends & Family, Here is an awesome article written by Dr Susan Jeffers about finding peace of mind! Dr Jeffers writes excellent self help books on Positive Thinking among other things! -------------------------------------------- All of us can live a fulfilling life in the middle of the turmoil. By Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. We are an anxious nation…in fact, we are an anxious world. There is no question that uncertainty seems to have increased dramatically in the last few years. We worry about terrorism. We worry about war. We worry about losing our jobs. We worry about the dangers confronting our children. And on and on and on. This worry is understandable, given the state of the world at the present time, but there is no question in my mind that, with the right tools… All of us can rise above any situation that life hands us. All of us can live a fulfilling life in the middle of the turmoil. All of us can find a sense of peace and purpose. In my newest book, Embracing Uncertainty, I provide the tools that I have found most effective in helping us see the world in a more life-affirming and powerful way. Here is a taste of a few of the many tools I include in the book. “Un-Set" Your Heart. Un-setting your heart means letting go of your picture of how you want it all to be. It means letting go of trying to control things over which you have no control. One of the prime causes of our suffering is our wanting things to be different than they are. Yes, we all want a peaceful world instead of a world filled with weapons of mass destruction. Yes, we all want health instead of illness. Yes, we all want healthy, happy children instead of children who break our hearts. But sometimes life doesn't hand us what we want. And when we un-set our hearts from our needing it all to be a certain way, we can breathe a sigh of relief and open the door to a more powerful way of living. Create a "wondering" life instead of a "hoping" life. It helps us un-set our hearts when we replace the words "I hope" with the words "I wonder." Let me demonstrate. Instead of "I hope the war ends quickly," make it "I wonder if the war will end quickly." Instead of "I hope the stock market goes up," make it "I wonder if the stock market will go up." Instead of "I hope I keep my job," make it "I wonder if I'll keep my job." Notice the relief in this simple shift. Even with difficult situations in our lives, substituting “I wonder” for “I hope” keeps our hopes from being dashed and opens up the possibility of our learning and growing from whatever happens. Choose the path of trust. When you fully understand that you have little control of the external world, you then have two choices: you can choose to see yourself as a "poor-me" victim at the mercy of circumstances or you can choose to develop the trust that, no matter what happens in your life or in the world, you will have the inner strength to create something good from it all. Hopefully you will choose the latter! Increase your inner sense of power. One way to help you develop trust in yourself is to cut off negativity in the mind by saying to yourself over and over again, "Whatever happens in my life, I'll handle it!" Those of you who are familiar with my work know that it is one of my favorite affirmations. I suggest you emblazon this powerful affirmation on your mind. If you say it often enough, you will ultimately believe it. And if you really believe that you can handle anything that happens in your life and in the world, what could you possibly have to fear? Nothing! So when the "what-if's" are driving you mad, simply cut them off by saying over and over again, "Whatever happens, I'll handle it!" You'll feel a sense of confidence wash over you. "What if I lose my job? I'll handle it." "What if my children have difficult times? I'll handle it. Whatever happens in my life, I'll handle it!" Collect "heroes" who have learned to "handle it." Heroes to me are people who have created much good in this world as a result of horrible experiences in their lives. A few heroes come to mind: Christopher Reeve, who created so much good as a result of his paralyzing accident; Viktor Frankl, who created so much good out of his experience in a concentration camp; Ram Dass, who created so much good as a result of his debilitating stroke; Marc Klaas, who created so much good after the murder of his daughter. As you collect heroes, you understand this important thought, "If they can learn and grow from their experiences, I certainly can learn and grow from mine!" As you collect your heroes, your trust grows and your worry about the future gets smaller and smaller. Focus on the learning that can come from any situation in your life. Yes, you can learn and find strength from anything that happens to you, just as the heroes mentioned above have done. I certainly learned from and found strength as a result of my own experiences with cancer and divorce. If you see ALL situations in life as a way of learning and growing, it helps you let go of your need for things to be a certain way. War............a way of learning Peace..........a way of learning Illness..........a way of learning Health..........a way of learning Poverty........a way of learning Wealth.........a way of learning Depression.....a way of learning Joy.............a way of learning So despite what is happening in your life and in the world, constantly remind yourself "I can learn from this." When you can see the opportunities inherent in all situations, good or bad, it truly helps you embrace all the uncertainty in your life. Embrace the thought "It's all happening perfectly." This is another affirmation I use over and over. And it truly helps me let go of my needing things to be a certain way. "Susan, how can things be happening perfectly when there is possibility of war, terrorism, illness, poverty, and violence?" My answer to that is that we cannot know the “Grand Design,” the great mystery of it all, and as we say "It's all happening perfectly," we begin looking for the good in any situation that life hands us. When we look for the good, we always find it. Yes, so much good can come from so much that is bad. In that, it truly is happening perfectly. So when things seem very difficult in your life or in the world, just keep repeating this reassuring statement until it becomes an automatic part of your thinking. This always helps me to have trust, not only in myself, but also the Grand Design. Focus on the blessings. I have learned from my heroes that, no matter how horrible life may seem on the outside, it is so important to focus on the beauty. As we go about our daily lives, we take so many wonderful things for granted. It's now time to notice. Strangely, this is hard to do, especially when we have our eyes focused on the bad. It sounds ridiculous, but we actually have to train ourselves to notice all the beauty in our lives. And train ourselves, we must…because focusing on the blessings is an absolute necessity for diffusing our fears about the future. A suggestion: As you go about your day, stop for a moment and notice when something wonderful happens. Then say to yourself while still in the glory of the moment, "I have had this." This is the acknowledgment that "No matter what happens tomorrow, I have had this today." It is in the noticing of the little things that you truly get the feeling of a life well-lived … that wonderful hot shower, that kiss from a loved one, the fact that your car started, that great dinner you are eating, the warm rays of the sun, a candy bar, a wonderful television show …. Get involved. Positive action has an amazing effect on our psyche. As we take action, we begin to feel more powerful and our fear about the future decreases considerably. Keep repeating to yourself: "My life has meaning and I will do whatever I can to make this a better world." Then ask yourself, "What am I called to do?" Make a list of what comes to mind, and begin taking action. When you remember that your life has meaning, it makes it so much easier to push through the fear and live a life that matters. And your self-esteem grows and grows. Just as importantly, you will have found the secret of creating a joyous and fulfilling life. As you make these tools a part of your daily life, you experience a whole new sense of purpose and power emerging from within, and you look forward to the future with an attitude of great possibility -- for yourself and for your world. -------------------------------------------- Practice using all the techniques that Dr Jeffers speaks of and it will help you! Marilyn L. Ali
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Re: Finding Peace Of Mind
9/21/2005 7:21:14 PM
I truely wish I had a peace of mind here. Day to day, I come back to a homeless shelter here in Honolulu, Hawaii. Most people here are on drugs or drink all the time. I have found myself stuck here for over 3 years now, and nothing I try to do works out for me. No job, no money, only food stamps from the state each month. I wish I had some sort of peace of mind right now knowing that my life will be better in the near future, but each time I return to the shelter my thoughts are shattered. Each time I fill out a application with the information below: Glenn Fluehr 350 Sumner Street Honolulu, HI 96817 People just don't hire people from this shelter, these people here have had bad experiences with homeless people (drugs/drinking) but I don't do any of that. I just go to the college here each day, and return in the afternoon for the shelter to serve dinner at 6:00pm. I have never heard of Dr.Jeffers. How could he help me? Getting a peace of mind right now with a little rest and good food would be great and well excepted. Thanks, Glenn Fluehr
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Re: Finding Peace Of Mind
9/21/2005 7:29:05 PM
Hi Marilyn, Great words to live by. Thanks for the post! Your Friend, Sweetgrame
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Re: Finding Peace Of Mind
9/21/2005 7:52:40 PM
Hi Sis Marilyn, Wonderful article! Some good things to practice for sure. Thank you for sharing with us. God Bless! Marion
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Re: Finding Peace Of Mind
9/21/2005 8:04:13 PM
Hi Glen, It's going to change! Come out of that depression state of mind, there is a bright side somewhere, you have to search for it. If you look for it you will find it. And you will look back at this and have a good laugh. I know I been homeless a time or two. Look like everything you touch fall apart, don't worry about that just do something else. Remember this the sun will shine in your backdoor someday! Peace! Jerome Pfeifer Sr P.S It's been a long time comming, but I know change is gone come! Tell yourself that!
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