Hi Branka,

It is nice to see you Hon, thanks very much for your great response. Women do not have to hide their beauty just because they dress appropriately. I am not suggesting that women should wear "burkas" like many of the Afghanistani women do. lol

For me, when I am out in public I prefer to wear dresses and skirts that go to my ankle and either long sleeve or 3/4 length sleeve tops, or if wearing pants a nice top to go with it. I do not show off my cleavage at all, except when I am at home I dress differently. People always give me compliments and tell me how nice I look so apparently I don't look too bad! I just am very modest and do not like to show my body off to everyone.

I am sure you dress very nice as well, and look quite attractive, but I bet you do not dress sleazy in order to do so either. Casual clothing is very nice and usually very comfortable...you are a beautiful woman anyway! ;)

Thanks again Hon and God Bless You!

Love Marilyn

Hi Trina,

Thanks very much for your great response...it was very well written and said. I agree with most of what you wrote, however you can not convince me that what a woman wears doesn't cause attention to herself from men. For example, if a woman is walking down a street where...let's say a bunch of construction men are working...and she is wearing very short shorts and a halter top that is quite revealing...don't you think the men are going to be hollering, whistling, drooling and whatever else at her? Most of them will be! Now what if the same woman walked down the street and was wearing a pair of crop pants and a nice T-shirt style top or something whereby she is not showing off her top...how would the men react then? They may look but I doubt they would be carrying on like they did when the woman was dressed the other way. See what I mean...and she is still dressed comfortably and cool for the weather. The only difference is she looks like she has a lot more respect herself.

As far as the woman being abused or raped by a man, as I previously stated, I know a woman is not at fault for that...that is totally the man's fault! However, there are times whereby we may have been able to stop what happened by not putting ourselves in a compromising situation...like I did with letting the guy drive my car. I knew the guy and I never liked or trusted him to begin with. Women go to self defense classes to try to protect herself from things happening to her, so she might be able to defend herself...I didn't keep myself safe that night. I do not blame myself for the rape at all...I just wished I had drove so I might have been able to defend myself and maybe stop what had happened. That's what I was trying to relate to the readers in my article. Does that make sense to you?

I am also an advocate for battered women, and in no way did I try to implicate that women's dress cause them to get abused or raped. If it came across that way I am sorry, but that is not how I meant it.

I agree that men need to learn to respect women more, and that is why I talked to my sons about that all the time while they were growing up. I taught them that women are not a piece of meat to be used and abused for their pleasures. This is the type of thing that all boys need to taught from the time they are very young. Start it off by letting little boys know they do not hit girls, and that is not okay behavior. Let them know they should protect their sisters or other girls if someone is hurting them. This is how we are going to put a stop to men abusing women...it needs to be consistenty taught to boys from a young age.

Thanks again for your commets!

God Bless You,

Marilyn

Hi Amanda,

Nice to see you Hon! Thanks for stopping by and for your comments. Thanks for sharing your story about your Mum and how she took control of what you wore growing up and right into you being a young woman. That's really cool!

I also took control of what my kids wore...my boys included...until they were old enough to be on their own or buy their own clothes. I only had a little trouble with my oldest daughter when she was around 13 and she started becoming interested in boys. As my mother would say, "She was getting a little too hot in the pants" and she thought she was going to wear extremely short skirts, dresses, and shorts. She found out very quickly that was not going to happen and all her temper tantrums in the world was not going to make a difference. LOL

Thanks again for sharing. God Bless You,

Love Marilyn 

Hi Sara,

Thanks for stopping by and offering some comments. I would also like to thank you for reviewing my article and all the wonderful things you wrote. I appreciate that very much my friend!

I can only imagine how some of the clothes throughout history must have been very uncomfortable, as you said, wearing so many petticoats and even those bustieres that were so binding...OUCH! lol

Thanks again my friend!

God Bless You,

Love Marilyn