After Noon! Friends,

 

I would like to say Thanks to everyone who has being very supportive and understanding the concepts of friendships no matter what you apply it too. While, we are continuing the approach of an extremely changing global world environment, every second in life, interest, feelings, outlooks, business, etc. especially with our younger generations about friendship, giving, helping each other, as well as others. We older generations must understand that our younger generations have been and will continue to be exposed to much more than we older generations have ever been. Therefore, a lot has being going on and changed. Their schools, their communities, as well as their home environment have change for better or worst. The more the older generations observe and look at the changes life situations has brought upon everyone good and bad, the better we can understand, and make wise changes to help our self selves to understand our younger generation outlooks on life, friendships, business etc. and appreciate it more. No matter how terrible a decision our adolescents make these days, we owe it to ourselves to have a good look at how we deal with the situations of our adolescents.

 

I would like to share something, my Church has come to create a youth program service just for the youths, which everyone was encouraged and very welcome to attend the services, it was created to help with proper communications between grandparents as well as parents, and others come to understand our younger generations. The program has a youth service every 4^th Sunday of each month and has become extremely successful with a lot of learning, understanding and fun since it started. The reason for this program is to help grandparents as much as parents and others not to fear and be afraid of their grandchildren decisions as well as other children, but rather make self changes to observe, listen, communicate, and understand how our younger generations are seeing ours and well as their future.

 

In my opinion, I feel the older generation owe this respect to younger generations more than ever, because we did not put a foot down to the limits of what’s exposed, viewed, etc. in TV, Movies, Video Games etc. which we were never exposed of when we were young some 50 and more year ago. These kids now a day are not freely playing home sports games in the neighborhood streets, making go cars to roll down the hills, home made bicycles etc. those things were extremely fun to us older generations, what about, what’s fun to our younger generations? Help them to properly adjust to the fun in their life successfully, I know many things about these youngsters may not seem agreeable to older generations, but there is always a right and wrong way of doing things in life. The important of this, is that our youngsters keep living happy and safe as possible.  

 

Perhaps! The more understandable communication within the home the better your Children make wise decisions and are safe away from home. Don’t shut them out and don’t let them shut you out of their life. Communicate, never be a shame and show too much pride to make the first move. Apologize just because, you love them. And Yes! You can have a friendship, and be their friend too. I’m sure you know the boundaries not to cross, this goes for both parents and children. My family and I are the best of friends.

 

Much Love Always,

Leslye

 

Hello Sam and AdlandPro Friends,


Please be aware that many of the posts to this forum have been deleted and censored so the real discussion can never be recaptured. 

The inflammatory remarks came from the author of this Article of Virtue, who did not take well to opposing opinions. 

And it seems Many have overlooked that.

Those that know me, in this community, also know that I have never refused to offer help and assistance, as well as my opinion.  For the record, most have received my support and assistance without expectations or exceptions on my part.

Happy Fathers Day to all the Dads of the community and those that will visit this forum.

Sincerely,

Jim Allen III
There is only one.

Hello Leslye,

This may come as a surprise but your latest post, particularly this part

"In my opinion, I feel the older generation owe this respect to younger generations more than ever, because we did not put a foot down to the limits of what’s exposed, viewed, etc. in TV, Movies, Video Games etc. which we were never exposed of when we were young some 50 and more year ago. These kids now a day are not freely playing home sports games in the neighborhood streets, making go cars to roll down the hills, home made bicycles etc. those things were extremely fun to us older generations, what about, what’s fun to our younger generations? Help them to properly adjust to the fun in their life successfully, I know many things about these youngsters may not seem agreeable to older generations, but there is always a right and wrong way of doing things in life. The important of this, is that our youngsters keep living happy and safe as possible."


 I totally agree with.  Kudos for sharing and being well stated.

Jim

Hello friends,

I would like to make afew comments after reading this,

First of all I have A Kathy Hamilton Foundation set up in the schools in my Town for at Risk youths.It is a very big hit.Anyways hopefully it will soon be set up in the court systems to help kids.

Anyways,I think it has to do woth how we are raised,Everything is a domino effect no matter what it is in life we do.

Now I am going to some what in part blame it on the parents.Now everything in life is about choices and consequences. We must teach our children about morals, values and excepting responsibilies for what one does or choose.

If Parents set limits and had consequences for what their children did they wouldnt be doing the bad choices they pick. also Adults are so wrapped up in themselves they have lost the family time together.

If they spent more time with their kids and did more family time and had conversations with them it would make a difference.There is to little communication amongst the parents and kids. If the parents took on more responsibilty and shared with the kids more beliefs on making better choices things would be different.

Now some might think that the kids friends play a major part in the kids choices,I think thats not so.

If the parents taught their kids more about character in someone how to choose good between bad  it would make a difference.To many people want to blame their problems on any one but their selves. Parents must be accountable in order to make sure that their kids learn accountability.

Its not all just about the influences around someone,Its called Parents teach your children well and they will grow up well,Stop blaming everything else.look where the real truth is and be accountable.Your children are a reflection of you and your behavior.

Just my $02.

Kathy Hamilton/simikathy

Morning! Kathy

Great news to hear you have taking steps to help kids grow to have a better future.

You stated: Now some might think that the kids friends play a major part in the kids choices,I think thats not so.

I do not see why not, it's called peer pressure.

choosing good between bad is good, but what about the long time friendships, people at all age levels grow attached to one another.

 

As we can not always watch our children 24/7, I usually lecture all the kids in my life, about the consequences that come with bad choices of friends, I tell them, if you choose your own friends be aware if your friends are doing things out of the norm, think about the terrible things that comes alone with the choice you made to continue the friendship. I also, let the kids know and ask them, if your friends are doing things out of the norm are they really your friends? Adding, if you really care about your friends that are doing thing out of the norm, you have 3 choices, either, you tell your friends you refuse, and you wish to stay friends in hope they change their minds about doing wrong or dismiss yourself from them for good, or suffer the consequences. Simple!

 

We can only teach them right from wrong, but not make the choice for them, there must be at some point, allowing them space in hope to learn to make wise choices on their own. This helps the kids to build strength, confidence, trust, and love for themselves. Trust me, they hear you.

 

There are many who teaches their kids extremely well, yet still there are surprising problems. Kids surely have an individual mind of their own, there are many other things that interfere with a child’s growing mind while being taught by their parents continuously. Kids are not always the reflections of parents but mostly others outside the home, curiosity gets to kids big time. Peer pressure is a heavy issue to date. Parents can not know everything to teach, before an incident, some things just come by surprises.

 

Much Love Always!

Leslye